Yes love changes people!!

Hello friends!!

Love comes with so much packages for us and sometimes we don't even plan for it

Do you consider or believe that falling in love with someone changes the way we see life?

For me it's a capital yes!
Let me share a some life stories with you.

I know of a young man who is close to me, he is even a preacher. One time when he was speaking on a relationship subject, he made a comment that he can not marry a lady who doesn't know how to cook at least 7 kinds of local soups and who doesn't know how to do house chores. He also added that he can not be the one doing those things for his wife and will not tolerate eating out. Have heard him make such comments more than 5 times.

Guess what? He got married and the first time I visited him I saw him sneaking out with food flakes to buy food he would eat. I caught him but I didn't say a weird. The second time I visited I saw him in the kitchen cooking.

I could not hold myself I had to remind him of the statements I heard him say. Guess his response? He said "marriage changes people" I could not help but laugh. He got so I love and he didn't mind doing all the things he spoke against.

Now my second story..

I know a lady who always has this perception that a man should always be the one to giving to the woman and not the other way round.

She always condenmed her friends who gave to their boyfriends. Well she has no boyfriend when she kept boosting about the statement until she fell in love with mechanics who just got fired from his job.

Actually the guy was her personal car mechanic each time she visited the mechanic workshop to fix her car. Now she takes responsibility for the guy. She even went as far as introducing him to her clients so that he can fix their cars. Why did she change? She fell in love. Last year I had the opportunity of hanging out with her and we had a conversation along this line. I asked her why she changed and she told me that life is not really how we see it.

So yes falling in love can change ones perception about life. Now she believes if there is a situation she can render help she should no matter the gender.

Do you think that for love we can change aspects of our lives?

Yes I think so ..I also think I have been able to establish that from my story. You see from the first story the young man iss strict on not doing house chores for his wife probably he doesn't even know how to do it but he had to learn and start doing it just because he loves his wife.

I also have a lady friend who doesn't like eating certain kind of meals neither does she cooks it. But she discovered the man she is in love with like eating the meal almost every day. She learnt how to cook and eat it..

There is in patient neighbor we had while growing up. He abuses women verbally including his girlfriend. The girl friend left him and he couldn't get another lover because the news spread in the neighborhood that he doesn't treat women right, so ladies avoided him.

Until a particular young lady was willing to give him a shot. She made him assure her that he would work on himself and become better. Guess what? Before the moved out of that neighborhood, that guy because so sweet that many ladies wished he married them.

Yes for love I can change an aspect of my life just to accommodate the one whom I love. When I met a beautiful friend 2021, I remembered how she was, crude, unforgiven, hard and many other attributes. But these were not her fault, she had gone through series of bad experiences that made her tough. Gradually I see how she changed just to accommodate me in her life. Today she is the best.

Do you think that when we change something in our lives we do it for that person we love or on our own initiative?

I think it both sides. We can chose to change for the sake of the one you love and you can also decide to change on your own initiative knowing that your present life doesn't go well with your lover.

When the person you love complains or keep complaining about a particular behavior or character you have, it is expected that you change. But how will you even know that what you are doing is not good if she doesn't tell you? So to a greater percentage, we change because we do it for the one we love.

How good or bad is it to change aspects of our life to please that person we fell in love with?

Well I can't say until I am faced with such situations. But most times the changes are good. It is relate to see bad changes. Love is kind. Love is patience, love endures all things. I did not see love beats , or envy or kills.

So if the changes are totally bad then I don't think we can tag that as love. For me I can't make change negatively because I love someone.

It is good to change an aspect of our lives for the one we love. Maybe we have never seen that aspect our life having bad effects on people until this live came along opening our eyes to see that there is more we can become.

Is it worth changing for the love of another person or do you consider that people should be accepted as we are?

Well it actually depends on the kind of change we are talking about. Imagine me falling in love with a man that is loud and stingy. Hmm I can not accept him for who he is because that relationship will not last.

He has to accept that been loud and stingy is not healthy for a man. He has to be willing to accept his faults and walk on himself before I can accept him.

But when it has to do with him been fair and short I have to accept him the way he is. I can't ask him to go for a surgery to get tall or dark. No

Then it means when the change has to do with disposition and character, we should not be accepted the way we are..there is more transformation that needs to be done.

When it comes to structure, statue, complexion,size then we should be accepted the way we are.