RE: A different kind of nostalgia!
Dear Maan, believe me, I am happy to look at such pictures. By the way, we don't have very many of them. My aim has always been to keep the important things about the present in my head and not to delegate everything that happens to pictures. I can't say that I have achieved this goal perfectly as far as memory is concerned, but I know that I am the lucky one who has endured all their disturbing stages of development and not despaired. Now I see the children in their adult state and I am glad that I was one of the people who accompanied such beautiful creatures through dangerous times to here in the very distant present. I am glad that they are finally living their own lives. As far away as possible so that I am not involved in their everyday lives. Close enough to meet up again from time to time. You can never get rid of children, no matter how old they are. When you meet up with them, it's as if they've never been away.
Dearest Afrog,
Thank you so much for your insight. I’m sure you were an incredible parent and still are. Parenting comes with a unique phenomenon: second-guessing. You find yourself questioning every decision you make for your children, wondering if you’re being too tough on them or too lenient, debating when to put your foot down. And then, if (God forbid) something bad happens, you spend sleepless nights thinking about how you could have prevented it.
And then there are those moments when you miss the times they were little: when all you had to worry about was feeding them, cleaning them, and keeping them alive, as they kept trying finding new ways of getting killed ;) Life felt simpler then, even though it didn’t seem like it at the time...
But preparing them for the real world? That feels like such an enormous and daunting task. You’re not just teaching them to survive—you’re trying to help them thrive, to navigate a world that’s unpredictable and often unkind. It’s overwhelming, yet you keep going because that’s what parents do: You love, you worry, and you try your best, even when it feels like you’re carrying the weight of the world.
Sometimes I just can't help worrying too much...
What did you win, when they will have gone. Time!
You are Maan, a sophisticated lady. who has always been a role model to her children. That's why they will master their lives as you do it when they are out of your home. Even if the world is such a madhouse. Start to plan your own life without the kids. You will see, it's easy and anyway, you will be a mother for your whole life.
I write and write but nothing can stop your deep blue blues. You' re a mother. Sigh!
Thank you! I needed this ❣️
Oh you are welcome dear Maan. It's a deep but total normal blues you have and as you know every blues finds its end. I'm happy that I read your article this time. So I could stand by you with a helping hand. I can't stand crying sophisticated ladies.
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All good. No more blues :))))