中国人的“高三人生”：无尽的压力与轮回

今天，我听到了这样一个节目，它将中国人的人生比作一场永无止境的高三。节目的主旨我并没有完全领会，但大体上它讲述了三个阶段：成年之前的中国人承受着巨大的压力，同时也是被管束最严格的时期。然而，大多数人在经历了相对宽松的大学四年后，步入社会，开始工作，却发现自己很大程度上不过是在重复高中生活的节奏——生活被严格管束，承担着巨大的压力。

这个观点虽然有一定的道理，但也并非普遍现象。从某种意义上说，中国的教育体制是古代科举制度的延续。古代的读书人通过科举考试来获得官职，用现代的话来说，就是进入体制内。尽管现代教育划分了众多专业，但这些专业往往与市场需求脱节，而大家所看重的，往往是那张由政府颁发的文凭，它成为了进入体制内的敲门砖。

与古代不同，现代的体制内范围更广，不仅包括公务员，还包括国企、事业单位等。如果能够进入体制内，生活压力会相对减轻，尽管会有其他方面的焦虑。但中国是市场经济，高等教育机构也不能免俗。既然文凭有价值，它们也乐于将其作为商品，来换取金钱，这导致了文凭的滥发和贬值。

因此，许多人在经历了高三的煎熬、大学生活后，进入社会，仍然要承受类似高三时期的压力。这确实有一定的道理。节目的开场白提到了一个有趣的现象：许多人即使在大学毕业、工作多年后，仍然会梦到自己回到了学生时代，尤其是临近考试的时候，那种焦虑和绝望的感觉，让人从梦中惊醒，庆幸这只是一场梦。

这种现象的普遍性，大大超乎了我们的想象。由高考制度衍生出的高压式管理和学习模式，给国人的心理造成了多大的伤害，留下了多深的心理阴影。虽然高考被认为是中下层阶级挑战上层阶级、打破阶级固化的最有力工具，是一种进步，但真的是最好的选择吗？

我比较认同的一种说法是，中国传统文化的内核是儒、释、道三教。儒家占据主导地位，这与科举制度的推广有关，使得读书人将大量精力放在儒家学说上。儒家学说强调等级制度和维护统治阶级利益，这在一定程度上压制了佛教和道家思想的发展。然而，道家和佛教都在一定程度上强调平等，特别是佛教，它在中国能够发扬光大，说明中国人内心渴望平等和自由发展。

整个高三都是为了高考做准备，学校对学生进行统一管理，甚至像衡水高中这样的高考专业户，其管理近乎监狱化，学生的生活被精确规划，没有任何自主空间。考试按分数排名，竞争的不仅是学到的知识，更是解题技巧。在这种环境下，人对环境完全没有控制力，容易产生强烈的无力感和焦虑。

现在，当我们有了子女，发现我们也进入了另一个轮回，这个轮回似乎比我们所经历的更加严苛。这也许是许多00后不愿生孩子的原因之一。面对这样的体制，我们能够做什么呢？在互联网时代，我们还是有机会做出改变的。也许可以从小事做起，比如尝试做一个公众号，开始简单的尝试。

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今天听到这样一个节目，说中国人的人生就像一场没完没了的高三。说实话，我也就是随便听听。这个节目到底讲了些什么，我也没有听得很明白。大致就是说三个阶段。中国人成年之前，压力最大，而且也是被管束最严的时期是高三。但是大部分人在经历了稍微宽松的大学四年之后，进入成年人开始工作的阶段，很大程度上也不过是在重复高中生活的模式，没有自我，被严格管束，承担很大的压力。有些道理，但也不好说，这或许就是普遍现象。

因为从某种意义上来说，中国的教育体制就是古代科举制度的延伸。古代读书人接受教育考科举，就是为了当官，用现在的话说就是进入体制内。其实现在的教育，包括高等教育，尽管划分了很多专业，但这些高等院校大都是接受政府的教育拨款的，并需要去适应市场，所以这些专业很多都是与市场需求脱节的。大家所看重的也就是那张由政府颁发的文凭，这张文凭就成了进入体制内的敲门砖。当然与古代不同，现在的体制内范围，体制内的意义要广一些，古代就是做官，而现在成为公务员，进入国企、事业单位等等，也都是需要这些文凭起作用的。

但是毕竟如果能够进入体制内的话，其实压力生活压力就会小很多。当然会有其他方面的焦虑，但是毕竟中国是市场经济，这些高等院校也不能免俗。既然文凭有价值，他们也乐得把文凭作为商品，来换取老百姓的真金白银，这样就造成了文凭的滥发和贬值。所以就有相当大的一部分人，在经历了高三的煎熬，进入大学，然后进入社会之后，仍然要承受那种和高三时期类似的压力生活。也就是说中国人的一生，就像一场没完没了的高三，有一定的道理。

不过这个节目真正吸引我的原因是它的开场白，它说了一个有趣的现象，就是很多人即使在大学毕业，工作了很多年之后，在晚上睡觉的时候，仍然会梦到自己又重新回到了学生时代，而且还是回到了一个离考试很近的时间点。而这个时候，当年学过的知识，差不多都忘了。其实焦虑和绝望的感觉，然后整个人都被焦虑和绝望的感觉支配，而这时就从梦中惊醒，感慨原来只是一场噩梦。还别说，这样的梦境，我也经历过，虽然频率不是很频繁。然后再看视频下面的评论，居然很多人都做过类似的梦，这种现象的普遍程度，大大超乎了想象。

由高考制度衍生出的高压式的高三管理和学习模式，给国人的心理造成了多大的伤害和心理阴影。虽然就像古代的科举考试一样，被认为是中下层阶级挑战门阀和如今阶级固化的最有力的工具，是一种进步，但真的是最好的选择吗？一种我比较认同的说法，说中国传统文化的内核就是儒、释、道三教，其中释是指的由印度传入的佛教。而其中儒家是占据主导地位的，这其中的原因就是科举制度的推广，使得读书人将大量的精力都放在钻研儒家的学说上面，而儒家学说是强调等级制度和维护统治阶级利益的，很大程度上压制了佛教和道家思想的发展。甚至一些西方的学者认为中国的文化是偏专制和极权的，其实这是错误的。道家和佛教都在一定程度上强调平等，特别是佛教，它在它的发源地印度完全消失，那的人至今仍然固守着种姓制度，但却在中国能够发扬光大，说明中国人精神里面还是渴望平等的，平等和自由发展的。

同样的高考也是一样，整个高三都是为了高考做准备，为了能够取得好的成绩，学校都是对学生进行统一的管理，甚至像衡水高中这样的高考专业户进行的近乎就是监狱化的管理，学生每时每刻的生活都被精确地规划，没有任何的自主空间，因而被人称作高考集中营。这在其他的学校中，这个地区的学校里面也只是程度不同而已。同时考试按分数排比，所以某种程度上竞争的并不是你学到了多少知识，而是你解题的熟练程度有多高。所以这就面临着其他人的竞争，考得好，你自己努力考得好，并不能够决定什么，如果别人的成绩分数比你高，那么你的努力将毫无意义。这也是将所有人置于一种竞争的状态。在这种环境当中，人对环境完全没有控制力，于是会产生非常强的无力感和焦虑，也不宜培养出好的人际关系。

可是现在当我们有了子女之后，发现我也要进入另一个轮回了，这一个轮回似乎比我们所经历的那个更加的严苛，这也许是很多 00 后不愿生孩子的原因吧。面对这样的体制，我们能够做什么呢？我觉得在互联网时代，我们还是有机会做出改变的，也许可以从小事做起，我想尝试着做一个公众号开始简单的尝试。

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Today, I heard such a program, saying that the life of Chinese people is like an endless senior year. Honestly, I was just listening. I didn't quite understand what the program was about. Basically, there are three stages. Before Chinese adults, the most stressful and most tightly controlled period is the third year of high school. But most people, after a slightly relaxed four years of college, enter the stage of adult work, to a large extent, just repeat the pattern of high school life, no self, strict discipline, bear a lot of pressure. There's some truth to that, but I don't know. Maybe it's the norm.

Because in a sense, China's education system is an extension of the ancient imperial examination system. In ancient times, scholars received educational examinations in order to become officials, in modern words, to enter the system. In fact, the current education, including higher education, is divided into many professions, but most of these institutions of higher learning are funded by the government and need to adapt to the market, so many of these professions are out of touch with market demand. What people value is the diploma issued by the government, which becomes a stepping stone to the system. Of course, different from ancient times, the scope of the current system, the meaning of the system is wider, the ancient is to become an official, and now to become a civil servant, enter state-owned enterprises, public institutions, etc., also need these diplomas to play a role.

But after all, if you can enter the system, in fact, the pressure of life will be much less. Of course, there are other concerns, but after all, China is a market economy, and these institutions of higher learning are not immune. Since the diploma is valuable, they are also happy to use the diploma as a commodity, in exchange for the real money of the people, which has caused the indiscriminate issuance and devaluation of the diploma. Therefore, there are quite a large number of people, after experiencing the suffering of the third year of high school, entering the university, and then entering the society, still have to bear the kind of pressure life similar to the third year of high school. In other words, the life of the Chinese people is like an endless senior year, which has a certain truth.

But the reason why this program really attracted me was its opening line, which said an interesting phenomenon, that is, many people even after graduating from college and working for many years, when they go to sleep at night, they still dream that they have returned to their student days, and they have returned to a time very close to the exam. And at this time, the knowledge learned that year, almost forgot. In fact, the feeling of anxiety and despair, and then the whole person is dominated by the feeling of anxiety and despair, and then wake up from the dream, feeling that it was just a nightmare. Not to mention, I have also experienced such dreams, although the frequency is not very frequent. Then look at the comments below the video, actually many people have had similar dreams, the prevalence of this phenomenon is far beyond imagination.

The high-pressure management and learning mode of the third year of high school derived from the college entrance examination system has caused much harm and psychological shadow to the people's psychology. Like the imperial examinations of ancient times, it is considered to be the most powerful tool for the middle and lower classes to challenge the family and today's class solidification, which is a kind of progress, but is it really the best choice? I agree that the core of traditional Chinese culture is Confucianism, Buddhism and Taoism, of which Buddhism refers to the Buddhism introduced from India. The reason for this is that the promotion of the imperial examination system made scholars devote a lot of energy to studying Confucianism, which emphasized the hierarchy and the interests of the ruling class, and suppressed the development of Buddhism and Taoism to a large extent. Even some Western scholars think that Chinese culture is authoritarian and totalitarian, which is actually wrong. Both Taoism and Buddhism emphasize equality to a certain extent, especially Buddhism, which completely disappeared in India, its birthplace, where people still adhere to the caste system, but can flourish in China, which shows that the Chinese people are still eager for equality, equality and free development in the spirit.

The college entrance examination is the same, the whole third year of high school is to prepare for the college entrance examination, in order to achieve good results, schools are unified management of students, even like Hengshui High School college entrance examination professional households carried out almost prison management, students every moment of life are precisely planned, without any independent space, so it is called the college entrance examination concentration camp. Among the other schools, the schools in this area only vary in degree. At the same time, the exams are graded by scores, so the competition is not so much how much you learn, but how proficient you are at solving the problems. So this is the face of other people's competition, do well, your own efforts to do well, does not decide what, if other people's grades and scores are higher than you, then your efforts will be meaningless. It also puts everyone in a competitive situation. In this environment, people have no control over the environment, so they will have a very strong sense of powerlessness and anxiety, and it is not suitable to cultivate good interpersonal relationships.

But now when we have children, we find that I have to enter another cycle, this cycle seems to be more severe than the one we have experienced, which may be the reason why many post-00s do not want to have children. What can we do in the face of such a system? I think in the Internet era, we still have the opportunity to make changes, maybe we can start from small things, I want to try to make a public account to start a simple attempt.