Why do we give so much importance to achievements | Success Taboo | Phobia of Being Unsuccessful | Hind Whale Community

I hope you all be fine and doing great for the humanity as well as our community too. Being the student of anthropology it's my duty to highlight the different parameters and aspects of our culture and personality which have been mostly developed by the external parameters and used to decide through the society. It's totally comparative in nature , which should not be considered anymore. So let's find out the different aspects of the achievements and it's social value.

The perspective : Cases around Us

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In childhood, parents used to smile at us, encourage us, give us dab when we win any game or get good marks. There used to be a dot for poor performance. We were scolded for not having body shape as per the prescribed norms of black beauty. In such a situation, we feel that it is necessary to be special in order to get the love of our parents and others. In such a situation, when we were left out of achieving something, then we would feel incomplete, there would be a lack of love from our parents. Gradually, this thing would sit in the mind that we are not capable of getting love.

A child's mind does not understand which mistake has been made by him and which mistake happens naturally. A child suffers the most while battling this condition. The rejection he gets all the time breaks him down. All these moments are stored in the mind in the form of memories, whose effect is seen in the form of our body, emotions and physical reactions. Every time failure comes, the mind is filled with self-guilt and if this pain is deep, then the balance between body and mind gets disturbed. This is a big issue, which should be discussed separately. After all, rewards become everything to us. Somehow we've got to prove ourselves and prove ourselves

The Comparative Methods of Our Society

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Yes, we are successful. But, what if we do not get the job or we lose it. Or we don't grow in our career or we don't get as many clients as we should or your boss is not happy with your performance. In such a situation, many times you feel yourself alone. Initially, you try to give yourself a sense of security that you are thinking wrong. Be thankful for what you have. Many times you start blaming others to hide your shortcomings. The feeling that we are unworthy of love hurts deeply. Whenever you are faced with rejection, the same wounded child resurfaces in you and old childhood hurts come to your mind. You start adding your importance to external elements. i want to tell

The Solution : I know there are better ways to live.

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With this you will feel happy, will not get angry and Neither the hurt childhood will be remembered again and again and the solution is not to deny your feelings. Because all these problems are related to your beliefs and values. So you can get out of this too. All you have to do is look at yourself in a new way and accept yourself, decide that your worth cannot be dictated by the useless rules of the world. It doesn't matter what kind of career the people around you are choosing or what other people think. The truth is something different that we think. When you are fighting a battle from within, then all achievements, big house, happy family standards, beautiful body...etc all become meaningless. What really matters is your inner strength.

I hope you will give the respect to this most awaited and demanding topic of our anthropological society and it's should be considered as the burning topic as well to maintain the physical and mental balance among the children in our society. And yes please don't forget to share your valuable opinion so that I can improve further to serve you the best.