Love And Giving

It is true that there are many ways by which someone can substantiate or prove their love for someone, but one truth remains that among the top of the proofs is in your act of giving. There is no way you will say that you love someone dearly, yet nothing from you have fallen out to them in terms of giving. Where your heart is will be naturally where your resources and your treasures will be geared towards. That is, you have the natural desire to give to the person or people who you love. If you are constantly being encouraged to give, then check it, love may just be lacking.

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One of my friends shared the story of what he passed through in his last relationship with his ex and I realized that your act of giving is empowered by love, otherwise it will become a burden. He was in a relationship with a lady who wants everything to be done for her. It is not bad per se, but the problem was that she never reciprocated any of the kind gesture. In fact, she finds it hard to give him anything but will not have problem giving outsiders. She felt that it was a privilege for the guy to have her as girlfriend. It was not like she did not have what to give but she was just unwilling to give.

The height of it came during his birthday, which was about one week after her own. During her own birthday, he bought a lot of things for her and even hosted both her and her friends to some nice party. However, when it came to his own birthday which was just about one week later, he even barely wished him well talk more of sending any gift to him. In fact, she was almost busy all through that day as she normally does when it gets to her own turn to reciprocate an act of giving. After that day, she returned back to communicating with him. This sent a strong message to the guy that the lady does not love him but was only keeping him as an option. He had to back out from the relationship for his mental sanity.

It is worthy to note that it is not necessary the size of what you have given that shows that you love someone. It is the heart with which the gift is actually coming out from and of course, the availability of it. If you have a heart towards someone, you can give anything to the person. Of course, someone's treasure will naturally find its way to where the person's heart is. No matter the distance, once there is love, it will not be a barrier to your act of giving. In fact, distance is only a barrier when you are not in love. But when you are in love, even a thousand miles will be like nothing.

The fact still remains that it is not just the better person that gives to the lesser; it can go either ways. Someone may be more financially capable than you, but they will still appreciate your act of kindness towards them. Not only will it create a sense of belonging, but it will also make them to know that you have them at heart. It may not even be something huge that will make the difference but it could be something seemingly little but the heart of love behind it will make it priceless. If you love someone, it will show in many things about how you relate with them and of course, giving becomes a natural thing.

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Giving should not be transactional. That is; it should not be a case of "I have given to you, so you need to find something to give me." It should be what you do from the heart without placing reciprocity as the principal reason behind it. When you give in love, then the giving will hold more value. However, to be able to give your resources, you must have given your heart. Always have in mind that It is the heart first before the pocket. While giving, also learn to mix it with a smile from the heart. After all, you are not under compulsion to give nor under a burden to give but because you have love in your heart.

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