How important it is to select with whom we relate to / Personal reflection
In this opportunity I want to share with you a topic that many of you may have heard and at the same time have been recommended at some point in your lives. Our parents used to tell us that we should know who we hang out with, since the people around us will have an influence in some way or another in our attitudes, and with that, in our lives, but how far can these people influence us?
There may be several points of view on the issue raised and that is what it is about, since diversity will always be the solution or consolidation of ideas that allow an adequate balance, I think that when each of us are totally focused on what we want, hardly anyone can change our determination, however, it is not always this way.
As we go through each of our stages during the development of our existence, we get to know a great number of people, among whom, without a doubt, we will find an enormous diversity in their behavior, behavior that in many cases we can copy, and it is here where we must always be attentive, and know that we are leaving aside our own criteria and way of being to acquire a behavior that we observe in other people.
Our parents are more aware of us when we are young, since the age of the people counts a lot when it comes to knowing how to select the environment with which they live, however, when we are young we think we know everything and somehow we end up doing the opposite of what our loved ones or parents advise us, this wrong behavior is detected and verified as we are tripping over everything, an aspect that at the time is not so nice, but I think it is necessary to learn how life is.
Therefore, we could say that when we become adults we are the faithful reflection of our capacities when we were young, that is to say, how capable we were of straightening our paths or of having followed the route traced by the advice of our parents (conscious parents, of course), in this respect each person has his own capacity for behavior, and this must always be so, since that is what it is all about, that is to say, with the diversity of thought is that we have made possible the space-time which we have called existence.
Of course, it is always important to relate to people with a winning mentality, that is, with positive behavior and with a desire for constant success, success in doing things well and without harming anyone around us, on the contrary, try as much as possible to set a good example with our behavior, both towards our children who in the same way have to go through their own experiences under our watch, As well as towards the rest of the people who live with us in this increasingly demanding society, in our hands will always be our ability to achieve success, however, it will always be important to take into account the people who come to relate to us and fairly measure their qualities and know how to move away if they are negative and learn from them if they have a positive behavior.
Until another opportunity my dear and appreciated friends, I hope to be able to count on your excellent contributions and to consolidate the subject raised in this opportunity.
hello @rbalzan79,
It is said that we are the average of the ten people with whom we most share our lives, with this I am not saying that we cannot relate to people who think differently, what I am trying to emphasise is that by nature people are grouped with individuals who have the same principles and values, so if we want to see who we are, it is enough to analyse the ten people with whom we most share our lives.
Hello friend @trabajosdelsiglo.
Actually you share an excellent comment and I think that what you express is true, this usually happens to us with our parents and with our teachers or professors, but also with people who share with us in certain space-time of our existence, thanks friend for such a wonderful contribution, many successes for you and your family. Best regards.
Hello @rbalzan79
I think a lot of us nes what we absorb from other people, it even happens from a young age, with our parents. We learn so many things from them that it is difficult that in a way we do not repeat attitudes from them. But already an adult must have the ability to define with whom we relate, and that there is a vision in order to ours.
Hello friend @josevas217.
It is true when we share with any person we notice things that we like about that person and we try to acquire them, a clear example as you express are our parents as they are the people with whom we share most of our stage as children and adolescents, it also happens with some of our teachers and professors, among others, but as adults we are becoming more selective with the people with whom we relate.
Thanks for your great contribution, greetings.
Very much in agreement my friend. Sometimes we are a reflection of the people we have around us. Certainly when we are growing up our parents are our main influence, but in our youth when we can choose our friendships, we often make bad choices. As an adult it is very important to know how to remove from our environment those who do not contribute anything good to our life.
Hello friend @emiliomoron.
It is true what you express friend, I think each of us see ourselves reflected in our parents as children and adolescents, however, as adults we broaden our focus to other people around us, but we are becoming more selective with our friendships.
Thanks for your great contribution, greetings.
Greetings @rbalzan79 Since we were children our parents try to educate us in the best way and that we are equal or better than them and they used to tell us "Tell me who you hang out with and I will tell you who you are" that phrase stayed in my mind and with the passing of time, one tries to consolidate healthy friendships or friends are away from difficulties.
Thank you very much for sharing your publication
Hi @dgalan.
It is totally true what you express, our parents from very small always try to guide us for the best of the ways and that we can be good people when adults, thanks for your great contribution, greetings.
Nice day friend, of course it is important to select with whom we relate, but this changes in the stages of our lives, when children we cannot control it and we are affected in a positive or negative way without being able to avoid it, as we grow we can be more selective, our parents said "tell me who you hang out with and I'll tell you who you are" there is a bit of truth in that, we just have to become more selective with the people we let into our lives. Regards
Hi @nahela.
Really excellent contribution that you make, as it is very true what you express in the selection of people with whom we relate and as you express as we grow we control more effectively such action, thanks for sharing your extraordinary thoughts. Greetings.
We absorb from our parents more then our friends or the environment. Interesting piece
Hi @valchiz.
Thanks for sharing and rating this article. Regards.
Hello @rbalzan79 With time, and especially with the mental space of being emotionally and physically away from that toxic person, you will understand a lot about yourself. Free yourself from the need to compete, understand, control or change anyone. It is not your job. The only one you can save is you.
Hi @aplausos.
Yes friend when we get away from toxic people we can make better decisions both towards ourselves and with the rest of the people around us, thanks for your great comment. Greetings.
As humans we get influenced by the people we like the most and so it starts with our parents always at first, and if it happens and we listen to them we will be able to choose the right people and friends so that they will influence us positively.
Nice read, looking forward to read more from you.
It is seriously important that we choose the people we share our time and emotions with.