Beware of being someone's puppet.
It is different if you want to use it yourself. But there is a need to be aware if someone is using you for their own interests. Because there can be danger in this situation. 'Manipulate' or using others to achieve one's own goals - can be done by spouses, friends, relatives, colleagues or superiors. Lying, guilt tripping, refusing to make sacrifices, the 'silent treatment', showing anger indirectly are signs of trying to control someone's behavior or activity. These people can suddenly become very emotional in order to 'manipulate' someone, and soon become emotionless and cruel. These 'manipulative' people tend to pull away from a person's relationships with family and friends. They are always trying to undermine people's self-esteem.
They destroy people's confidence with insulting comments and jokes. They force people to make quick decisions and hide important information. People who do not like to maintain the boundaries of the relationship very much, those who have a lot of empathy towards others, who have a lot of low self-confidence, are easily victims of other's 'manipulation'. Compassion is a very good quality. But it destroys a person's mental health to some extent. Because 'manipulators' tend to target people who are highly empathetic.
In any situation, people from the minority group are subjected to 'manipulation' by the people from the majority group. In these cases the people of the majority party influence not only the people but also the rules by their numerical influence. If the things you are constantly doing in life seem unbelievable to yourself, then you may be influenced by someone. In this situation, you will keep repeating an incident in your mind, try to understand what actually happened? If your other relationships such as family, relatives, friends etc. keep drifting away without realizing it, then that is also a strong indication that you are a victim of someone's control. Even if you don't get a chance to think through any decision you make, there are other people behind it. That is, being influenced or controlled by someone. That influencer may not be directly involved in your decision making.
This 'manipulation' is very effective in destroying mental well-being. So the safest way is to take help from people you trust. Mental health specialists can be consulted if needed. People who are close to you may also want to keep you under their control, which is difficult to understand. Talking to someone you trust who doesn't know the person doing this can give you good advice.
Once the 'manipulator' has been identified, the boundaries of the relationship with him should be firm. And it is important to make the person aware of that boundary and explain the consequences of violating it. Naturally the 'manipulator' will overstep his boundaries and try to gain control over your personal life. But in that case again he has to explain the boundary line. If this cycle continues, it would be good to end the relationship.
