Mirrored

Today was a daddy/daughter day. We have them often, it isn't something unusual however, I thought I would blow the dust of the camera and see what came about. I have joked about it many times and even though my daughter looks so much like me, she is also so far from looking like me.

What is going to be very interesting to see how it pans out in the future is how the relationship between her and I will go. I am expecting a few sparks as she is already so much like me it is scary. She also has a fair bit from my wife... mostly the things that annoy me about my wife. Luckily, I have a few years to mentally and emotionally harden myself in preparation.

It got me thinking though, would I want to spend much time with myself if I got to meet me and I think the answer is a resounding no. I would frustrate myself no end. I don't know how my wife puts up with me at all t be honest. I am not saying that I am a bad person if anything, I am likely far from it but, I am super annoying.

I have so many bad social habits that must frustrate so many people I talk to and I have a bit of a tendency to argue and often play Devil's advocate. I say play because for me it is interesting but others rarely play when they are arguing. Most people attach themselves to something they find important and will become emotional and fight for or against.

For me, it is interesting to see how far people go for something they believe in but when the topic is slightly shifted away from their own stake but fundamentally the same, it is like they are different people totally. When people have their beliefs questioned they feel victimised but they have no qualms about victimising another on their beliefs.

One set of skills that I am going to help my daughter improve is her ability to communicate and most importantly, her ability to listen because, if she really is like me, that is going to be an issue. I should really work a lot more on my own listening ability as it is vital in discussions and arguments. Not just so one can give the opportunity for the other side to express themselves and get new perspectives but, to hear all the hypocrisy and conflicted positions they hold and use it against them to win. ;)

I have a feeling that this little blue-eyed girl is going to well and truly outperform her dad and she will be the one teaching me.

Taraz
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