Tell Your Story #34: Respecting Boundaries, A Lesson Learned.

Good day everyone, how are you all doing? It's been a beautiful day over here though a bit too sunny. I'm actually here to participate in the tell your story contest week 34 and I'm going to bring the gist as e dey hot.

Something happened between my roommate and I during the week and though pained I had to keep calm because according to my lecturer, human beings behaves like animals so when dealing with humans you should be prepared to deal with all types of animals.

I like coming to terms with the person, like discussing things that may possibly bring issues while staying together and how to avoid them. When my roommate reached out to me and asked that we stay together, I actually told her I'm not prepared for the problems that comes with having a roommate as I have experienced such in the past. She promised she'll be in her best behavior and even gave me reasons having a roommate is pertinent.

But reverse has been the case since we started staying together. Most times, I'll get annoyed and pay her back in her own coin but recently I've learnt to overlook and let things slide. My roommate wore my clothes without my permission while knowing I don't share clothes. It's either I give a clothe out or I get you a new one if you actually like the piece. But my roommate wore my clothes out and later told me she was unable to inform earlier because she was in a haste, can you imagine?

This happened on Thursday and that was the clothe I wanted wearing out the next day with my date for valentine. I was so angry that when I got back from school, I had to go check the clothe out and to my greatest surprise, the clothe was torn. My head was about to explode, like tears rushed down my cheeks and I began asking what I've really done wrong to deserve such. If there's anything I've always strived to do was to respect boundaries but this girl don't respect mine, she uses my stuffs the way she likes and I allowed her but now coming for my clothes is something I can't take.

She wasn't home on Friday when I came back from school so I opted for another outfit and on Saturday when she came back, I expected her to tell me that the clothe was torn but she said nothing and I allowed her because I wanted to give her time before she'll tell me she forgot. On Sunday morning, she washed the clothe and put it back in my box.

When I came back from church, I checked my box and saw the clothe and I brought it out and asked her when she was going to tell me that the clothe had torn and she feigned ignorance. I wasn't surprised because I knew that would be her reply, I gave her the clothe and she examined it and confirmed it was torn and later apologized.

Never to live with anyone again no matter her story or her level of persuasion.

Those who act gentle are usually the worst in character. People who sees my roommate from afar won't know and believe she's capable of doing such.

Knowing and respecting boundaries is one vital thing that encourages and promotes healthy relationship.

I invite @missyleo, @nsibaby and @jemilatbuhari to participate in this contest