SEC16W32 | Raising Boys and Girls

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Raising boys and girls

Hello everyone, it's great to be back in Week 3. I will continue to participate with happiness and love, because with that what I convey I believe will reach those who read it.

The theme in Week 3 of Steem for Ladies leads users to explain contest tips related to kids. Here I again tell the story in my capacity as a teacher and also a father, this can be a pure view of the practice that I have done so far.

I am a father of two girls and three boys, and in the school where I teach as a teacher, I have dozens of boys and girls. My responsibility as a father and teacher is the same, I have to educate everyone to be a generation that is not only intelligent but also has ethics and manners or manners as a mirror of human morality.

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_{Photos are mine personally : I am with the children and I am with my students at school}

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So the question arises, Do I distinguish how to educate boys and girls? or does it matter whether I raise a son or a daughter?

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Listen carefully.
God gave us a jewel in the world, in the form of a child. The child who is born and given to us is a temporary deposit from the creator, whether he is a son or a daughter. Guiding and teaching them the values of goodness is a responsibility and mandate, we as parents believe to do it as a form of trust in God too. Children can be good assets for parents in this world, and can also be good assets for parents in the hereafter. It can also be the opposite of the assets we treat badly because it can bring bad in this world and also the hereafter.

In educating and raising children, I hold fast to my faith as a Muslim. Where the way of raising boys and girls has differences and is different, it will all relate to those who will grow up later, at that time boys and girls have different duties and responsibilities. Because God has given some of the duties of men as leaders to women, the way to educate them is different. The difference in how to raise boys and girls is also based on the difference in the character of both, they have different natures that cannot be equated for any reason.

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_{My personal photos : photos of my children}

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Personally, my wife and I raise our children with some basic understanding of how to raise children, some of the ways are different, and the differences are divided based on several ways. Among others are :

1️⃣ Understanding of behavior
🧑🏻Men are taught gentleness, but they are also taught assertiveness based on their age. Assertive here does not mean negative, but rather gives an understanding that the man is a wise leader with a different way of educating, who can do good for the sake of self-esteem.
👱🏻‍♀️Women are taught with tenderness and cultivation of shyness, girls should have gentle behavior and have a high sense of shame. They should be instilled with a sense of self-esteem, and shy behavior to do something negative should be on them.

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3️⃣ Understanding of interests and favorites
🧑🏻Men are taught and directed to the interests and passions that are generally carried out by men, their interests are those related to dexterity and toughness. It takes a way to give understanding to this so that they understand and understand it.
👱🏻‍♀️Women are taught and directed to the interests and passions associated with women, again they need a gentle explanation. As long as it does not conflict with her nature as a woman, any interests and passions can be guided well.

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3️⃣ Understanding of the physical
🧑🏻Educating boys physically is not too difficult because they are strong individuals, I just give an understanding of how a man can maintain his honor, all he has is a necessity to be guarded and protected from bad things. Men should behave like men because there are no natures other than male and female.
👱🏻‍♀️Educating girls in physical terms is a little different and still requires a gentle attitude to convey it, it takes the delivery of understanding that is explained gradually and continuously. All parts of their physical are Honor, being close physically is a way to maintain the honor of themselves and also the family and can maintain their purity as a woman, shame is the advantage of a woman and parents who explain it well.

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_{My personal photos : photos of my children}

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Of the three differences in raising boys and girls, in my opinion, there are also fundamental similarities in raising them. These similarities include :

1. Be gentle in treating them as children, age will make them understand what we instill according to the way of educating boys and girls.
2. Establish emotional closeness, this way can make parents understand what they feel.
3. Giving them the same responsibilities and rights for certain affairs, and forming character starts from this way.
4. Give them a sense of security, because with comfort they can receive what their parents want for their future development.

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In the end, educating boys and girls is different in my opinion, this is based on my understanding as a Muslim. They are the next generation that will be faced with circumstances that are far different from today, providing an understanding based on these differences I believe can keep them in the future and they will understand about their responsibilities and their respective positions.

_{Photos are mine personally : I am with the children and I am with my students at school}

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Character education and character formation start from home, where I as a father and wife as a mother am the best teacher in giving life lessons and how they face life according to their position between men and women.

So many of my posts in this participation, I invite @sohanurrahman, @alee75, @eliany, @lil.albab, @malikusman1, @mayasari95, @ripon0630, @miftahulrizky, @josepha, and @goodybest to participate, best regards to all of you.

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