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RE: Open Happiness (Week 5): Touching lives through Selfless Giving!
Goodevening and Welcome to Open Happiness for this week.
Here is our topic for the Open Talk:
You found your dream wife or husband. But your parents would not allow the marriage to work because he or she is from a different tribe. What will you do?
Also, how do you view inter tribal marriages?
To me, there's nothing wrong with inter tribal marriage, where ever I find my love is good hence the man is godly man And he loves me and the family is a godly family too.
Welcome @chizikky187. Thank you for your view. Now the main challenge is that your parents said no because they dont want his tribe. What will you do?
If they said no because they aspire he's not a good man, I'll reason with them.
But if their refusal is based on prejudice I will not conceit to their wish.
I'm the one getting married not them.
I'll simply let them know that the mentality is outdated
U are very correct dear. Most of us are scared of falling in love because my mother has already told me that if i am bringing a lady who is not from my tribe to her house i should prepare to face her.
Waooh. this is really scary. So what will you do if you fall in love with someone from the other side?
My dear you are man enough to handle this,never plan of getting married and stay in the same house with either parents,its a major source of some failed marriages. Yes they are our parents but they cant live their life and also live ours
I truly support you dear,in this 21st century anywhere i found my love i will follow him asap
Exactly my sister @ladyofpolicy.
I'm getting married not them.
Men will bring their wives to their parents house.
Nnedi will start attacking
Yes @chizikky187
You are right
What matters is love.
As long as there is love there.
It will go well.
Yeah... The godliness of the partner is all that matters.
I will try and make them understand that we all one.
Thanks for participating, 😃 Give your reasons elaborately. @soma77
Me I'll reason with the as one if the man is good and the family is good.
What if they fail to see reasons with you. What if they threaten to - for example - disown you if you go ahead?
I have to think on a way forward to make them understand because without understanding what ever am doing is westing of time.
Lol @focusnow
I think i will go ahead😀😀😀
These is a situation most of us have been eye weekness to. My senior brother brought a lady from the north after his youth service and he told my mother that these is the lady he wants to spend rhe rest of his life with my mother refused ooo that he must marry an igbo girl. Till this time he left the house and refuse calling or picking anyone call from the house. My advice is that once someone finds love allow him or her to go ahead. We are all made in the image and likeness of God.
@simonnwigwe. Thank you for the response and that experience. Waooh . Ok since then, your brother stopped talking to the family? And the relationship with the girl also ended? were you able to find out what later happened?
He eloped with the love of his life ooooo he said no body can stop him.
Hi uncle @focusnow, the relationship may not end but the relationship is shifted out if home 🤣🤣🤣... Not the mum's business again
Exactly my brother @simonnwiwe... Sometimes parents can't understand the facets of love between a man and a woman.
The truth is that the mentality is outdated.
Even the bible reject prejudice.
Your brother will still marry the love of his life. 😃😃
You are very much correct dear. We are all humans made in the image and likeness of God. I think if we start seeing each other these way, the world would be a better place
Yes. If I may ask: If you have the chance to marry from a different tribe, where will it be and why
These one strong oooo, ernestly na were love carry me go na dat place i go go oooo
Haaa... This is not good at all. Parents should know they wont marry our spouses for us. Your parents took it far ooo.
When was this sef?
Good evening sir @focusnow and to every member of @steemalive,hope we all had a great time today.
Talking about inter tribal marriage,from my own personal point of view,there is nothing wrong with it because for me i think it create inter tribal relationship,brings peace to the two tribe and also help in conflict resolution.
Ina situation whereby my parents(let me personalize the case) object my marriage to my intended spouse because of his tribe,the only solution I can offer is to call them as talk to them,make them see that there is nothing wrong with it but if they insist nt to support me,i will go ahead with my marriage,in due time they will come around,but its very hard especially in Igbo land to convince our parents especially those that are not educated,but nevertheless,persistence can make them come around,thanks
@ladyofpolicy. You really made a great point when you said its nothing wrong. How about they threaten to disown you. Will you still go ahead?
From experiences sir @focusnow,I just found out that those threat doesn't last,they say it to threaten you not to go ahead with the marriage,trust me if you persist and follow your heart,after a while they will come visiting. For me yes i will go ahead with the marriage
To me, what matter a lot is love.
My parents cant choose who to marry for me.
Its absolutely wrong.
What if i dont love the person?
Well
What i will do is that
I will fight for it
You really have a strong opinion and that is fine. So if they choose to disown you for that, you wouldnt mind?
@focusnow
I will move on and marry whom i want to marry
No be them i go marry.
But i know one day they will still accept it
Another is that parents they think that their son will no longer take care of them that is their fear.
A son that won't take care if his parents won't do that even if he married in his village.
It's good to marry a good person tho tribe doesn't mean anything @soma77
I feel there is a reason God put us in same country. In the normal sense of it, we are too many in tribes but God is greater than all.
If I find myself in such a situation, I will encourage my wife to be in her best of behaviour while we join hands and seek the intervention of God.