How to Deepening Your Connection with someone you love

Ask deeper, more personal questions. Once you've been dating for a while, it's time to start getting to really know this person. That means understanding what makes them tick, what their hopes and dreams are, and what they believe and value. These types of questions, especially if they involve the future, may also help the other person imagine you in their future life.
Social psychologist Arthur Aron has developed a list of 36 open-ended questions that can help you start interesting, meaningful conversations with your partner. For example, "What would constitute a perfect day for you?" and "For what in your life do you feel most grateful?" A nice person should be open to having a conversation like this one.
Listen actively. Active listening is a process that builds mutual understanding and trust -- key components of falling in love. By developing your listening skills, you'll show your partner that you're really interested in what they're saying. This is important if you want to keep a nice person interested in you.
Try labeling emotions. For example, if your partner tells you she had a bad day and needs to vent, reflect what you believe she's feeling, such as "I'm sensing that you're feeling really upset."
Ask probing follow-ups. Try asking questions such as "What do you think would happen if you did.....?" or "What if you tried....?"