Thanks to @goodybest as the host of this inspiring contest. It won't be easy for me to create this, but I have decided to join the contest. This will be my first contest on Steemit as a revival after my second dormancy. There're so many moments along this year that had changed my way to embrace the life as a person, a daughter, a member of community and a human. But I'll wrap only the most important to me. It's a gift from heaven if I didn't forget any of that.

_{The most important man in my life; my teacher; my first love; my patron and I couldn't stop the tears every time I saw his photos in my gallery}

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Since we're talking about 2024, let's go back to a day when I finally made up my mind to be more open to the neighborhood engagement and find my cup of tea. I think that day is worth to be considered as the first moment of the year (yet the best)

Saturday, January 13th

_{the members of my neighborhood come out to play at Dusun Bambu, West Java}

Even though that's not the first moment I joined the outing event after 7 years living with them in the same neighborhood, that's the first event I joined without taking my beloved @dipoabasch with me. I thought I wouldn't be happy without him around. I didn't say I would join the event until a week before we're set to go. I seldom socialized with neighbors' ever since I moved in. But I realized that now, I would live in regret if I took a wrong decision. It's an event that our neighborhood members arranged once every 2 years. We have a social gathering once a month and usually we would be just enjoying Saturday night at the public facility in the neighborhood or sometimes went out to have lunch at a certain restaurant. We went by the rented tourism bus to reach that place.

_{source and if you want to read more about this place, maybe this info will help. You can find much more information about the place via search engine.}

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What happened? so that I considered this as a momentous moment?

When I moved into my hubby's house at RT 03, Pamulang Estate, Pamulang Timur, South Tangerang in 2017. RT is Rukun Tetangga in other word of a Neighborhood Association. I avoided any social gathering; I don't want to get involve in any neighborhood events. I want to live just with my hubby. It was not until 2018, when My Father-in-law had to do the pilgrimage to Mecca for hajj, and I have to take care of the small coffee shop he has, I started my social life again. I joined "ARISAN RT 03". about Arisan , Though joined, I seldom attended the gathering. Covid-19 stopped our regular meeting, and I spent my time online, playing games, etc.

_{this is our normal Arisan monthly}

When Covid-19 ends, Arisan started again, and I couldn't find any excuses to not joined the event. That's how I ended up with the outing activity with them. Since we went by the bus, I had to share a seat with someone. I shared the double seat with Bu Nilasari, and We have a good deep talk along the way. Bu Nilasari told me about her circle of friends (all members are neighbours), they have a weekly meeting to learn and recite Quran and every now and then will be joining charity events. There're 11 members in the group named "Khadijah". Khadijah was taken from the name of the first wife of Prophet Muhammad PBUH. She asked me to join the group. I didn't say yes at that time and let it hang in my mind. Mainly because I need to discuss about it with my hubby and I have a very bad lifestyle in recent years. I'm a night person, while the recital time will be morning to noon.

Back at home, I told my hubby, and he said "it's up to you. you're the one who knows the consequences of being in a group. you have been avoiding all those things and hiding behind my back in your comfort shell all these years. I won't stop you if you want to do that". After a week of deep thinking, considering the pros and cons, I called Bu Nila and said, "I'll join the group, but I'll quit when I think it's hard for me to mingle with" and She encourage me with so many rational words which touching my heart and mind. So that's it, I became the member of Khadijah since February 2024. The decision which leads me to a better life as a human and community member. I found my cup of tea, the sisterhood peer which very supportive. That momentous moment would lead me to many communities' events involvement this year.

Tuesday, April 30th

I will never forget the day because it's the saddest moment in my life. Around 3 PM, when I was visiting a good friend at her apartment in Lebak Bulus, South Jakarta. I accepted a text message from my father who was sick, asking me when I will go home. I replied and said it got to be sooner; I'm looking for a flight in the next 2 days. I did look for a flight to Medan through travel apps, and with my financial situation at that time I have to find the cheapest one, but I didn't make it. I met my friend and having our meals at the Hospital canteen across her apartment. at 6 PM, my sister called me, but it didn't get through because I put the phone in my bag. After finished my meal I checked the phone and saw many missed calls. My heart almost stopped beating; I have a bad feeling. So, I called my mom, no answer then my sister also no answer then I called my nephew, He cried and said "Cicik, Grandpa has gone". I didn't cry at that time, I know where I was. My hubby called and said the same thing, but my rationality started to ruin. I told him to borrow some money from his sister and book us the fastest flight to Medan. I hold my tears all the way to my hubby's house. I prepared everything while waiting for the good news about the flight. At 10 PM, finally we got our flight schedule, it's the first flight at 5 AM tomorrow. I'm so grateful that my sister-in-law was there to save the day for me.

I know crying won't stop him from leaving, so I pray for my father. Sending all my wishes to God to take care of him and give him the best place he deserved to. We flight back to Medan on time, and I keep in touch with my little brother whose living in Dumai, Riau and he's also on the way back. We made an appointment to meet in Medan and then continued our way home together with the same travel bus. We met at 9 AM at the bus pool, and we decided not to stop the funeral process just to wait for us to see belated father for the last time. My lil bro was having video call with my lil sister along the process. We both try our best to let it go. We cried silently; we didn't want to make it hard for father to leave us. This moment is the first time I lost any of my closest one. I thought I was well-prepared, but I tried hard to keep my brain worked in proper way. My heart was broken. I haven't fulfilled my promise to my belated father, that I will take him back to his hometown to visit his parents' graveyard. I thought he would wait a little longer until we can go to do the pilgrimage together too.

_{He's there sleeping alone; I couldn't get closer to him because I have my period and not allowed to enter the graveyard. it's okay, I can always send my little pray for him anywhere, anytime}

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From that moment on, I knew everything in my family has changed. Mom was the one who looks stronger, but I know how broken her heart was. There will be none who calls her "princess" and treat her like a queen anymore. My younger siblings will never have a chance to take care of father anymore. I stayed in my hometown for 9 days, I met so many old friends who came to send their condolences. From Elementary school's friends, Junior-Senior high school's friends to friends I have when I was working in Banda Aceh. They took time to come visit me at home.

_{Besties from Elementary School always there to keep me stand still. We keep in touch until today, sharing and caring so I won't feel like I'm all alone. They're right, I still have my mom, my brothers and sisters and I must be prepared for anything including losing someone I love the most.}

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All I know, I was the one who always support my parents and family financially until I got married and left home. I thought, none in my family would care about my situation. Then I found out that I was wrong. When My mom told me about the 100 days commemoration (August 8th), I already told her, I can't go home. But to my surprise, my lil bro and sister sent me some money to purchase the plane ticket and they want me to go home. Among the 9 siblings, they are the closest to me since their childhood. I always see them as a 4-year-old lil bro and sis. But now, I have to accept that they're already at their 40s and I can rely on besides my husband.

Saturday, August 17th

_{Angklung Saung 03 team performing at Indonesia Independence Day celebration, I learned and played a music instrument for the first time in my life}

Back in Pamulang, South Tangerang from my hometown Lhokseumawe, Khadijah Group also shower me with their empathy and condolences. I was blessed to be in the group. From weekly Quran recital meeting, then almost of all the members (8 out of 12) trying their best to encourage me to join the Angklung team. Bu Nila playing her best role again. She's the leader of the team also the conductor. She did try her best to keep me involved in any events in the neighborhood. She would call, asked me to accompany her checking the instruments or visiting any sick neighbor, and many more. From a crab who's always seeking for a sanctuary to hide (husband's arm), I grow to be a social butterfly under her lead. Funny that I have no resistance for her. Maybe because she's pretty and kind. Pretty and kind girls are my weakness.

Monday, November 25th

This will be my last momentous moments in this year. I was inviting to join a group which at first seems promising to change my life. The group offering an easy job and good payment. I was curious and wondering what it was. So I followed the rhythm. I and other members of the group were doing daily tasks. All I have to do is opening an online shopping app, seek for the shop name, following it, screenshot, send it to the admin of the group and get paid. $1 for each screenshot every 15 minutes as a regular member. If I can rank up to an agent, I will get $2 for each task. Besides the regular tasks, there is also a special task. I need to transfer the certain amount of money to a particular account as charity and I will get paid back +30%. To be an agent faster, you will need to count on the special task. On the third day of joining the group and doing the tasks, I was selected to rank up as long as I can accomplished the task. I have no idea at all, and I thought I just can quit anytime when I feel like I can't go on. My conscience was gone at that time, I'm too greedy for the instant profit. After being selected to rank up, I have to transfer a big sum of money which I don't have. I did the hilarious thing in my life, but lucky that I can get my conscience back.

When I was one step away to be an agent, the group asked to transfer $1500 to their account and I will get it all back after an hour with 30% interest. Before that, I have transferred $300 ( I borrowed my sister's money and online loans). They gave me time to collect the money within 12 hours. I downloaded so many online loans applications and none of it helps. I called my rich friends to help, and none is willing to lend me any. I was frustrated, and my hubby didn't know it at all. On Monday, November 25th 00:015, Steemit account, hive account, splinterlands accounts which I never touched for the whole 3 years, come across my mind. So, I took my laptop which have been abandoned too and start to find old documents for the keys to any of my crypto wallet accounts. At the same time, I talked to @akukamaruzzaman about cashing out my steem and hive to get the fresh money via whatsapp. I didn't tell him my situation, but he helped me how to do power down, transfer the tokens to another crypto market. I could have done that easily when I was working before, but I have forgotten it all.

_{that's my crypto wallet view before I remove my asset in a liquid pool on pancake and pay my debt to my sister and online loans, once I reached my goal, I cancelled all the power down}

I did the power down, I sent out the steem and hive available, also the liquid tokens in the game and reach my teammates to seek their immediate help. I was thinking to sell my game assets. I told them I need money and if they have any, they can lend it to me and my account is the collateral. Goodness, I contacted several good friends, only one replied. But he told me he doesn't have that amount of cash (I need $1000, my game account value is $3000) but he will buy some cards he needs from my account if I want to sell it. I didn't give him any replied for that. I was looking for another liquid asset in all my accounts hopelessly. While exploring my accounts, my kind coach, my benefactor, my leader of the team, the one who helped me a lot in my old days on steemit and steemmonsters, reaching out. He asked me so many questions about my situation and I didn't tell him the truth. Somehow, He knew what happened to me and with his ability to see my silliness he knew how to handle my complicated mind. We talked and talked for an hour, and by the time we done talking. I found my rationality back!

I promised him, I won't be stupid anymore. I beat my greediness of being rich instantly and get a grip. I decided to stop all the things related to the group. I considered myself a fool who got scammed. I let go of $300 take it as a loss of a bad investment. I considered that as a money to pay for a lesson for being greedy and stupid. I learned that it is the correct decision I made. I got $30 from the air and loss $300. What I found out later was that's the same amount of money I collected from selling my tokens. let's say it is even as an excuse. This going to be the first and the last time I let myself lose control on my conscience. Later that day, I told my husband about the whole story, and he was concerning about the lawsuit which was mentioned by the group before. I told him to just forget about it. I didn't owe them anything, they're owed me. I'll face the consequences coming to my door and all he has to do is standing by my side and hold my hand, gently.

November 25th is the day I declared to come back to Steemit and Splinterlands. It worth to be a momentous moment in my life this year.

_{the next day, November 26th, with a peace in my mind, I finally able to swim and lying with my back in the water, isn't it a blessing in disguise? through a weekly gathering, I found a friend who took me to a swimming pool. Then my hubby fulfilled his promises he made years ago to teach me how to swim, an hour of sweet coaching and then self-learn, I announce that I can swim now!}

From the momentous moments I wrote above, I learned that running away from social responsibility as a member of a neighborhood never made me a useful person. My destiny as a human is to socialize and contribute to the community. Don't expect for a reciprocal from others when you are not involved, engaged with the smallest world where you live in. If I never push myself to join the events, I will never know that I have a wonderful sisterhood circle. If I didn't lose my father, I wouldn't know that I can rely on my family and friends. I wouldn't know that they never take me as a burden even though I'm a jobless and moneyless. If I didn't lose my father, I wouldn't know that I can be so sad and experienced the tradition of funeral, commemoration. If I never made a decision to join the angklung team, I wouldn't know that I can play such a wonderful music instrument in a team and I have a role as a community member. If I never lose my money for being greedy and ignore my conscience, I wouldn't know that I have a good personality which deserved to be loved and found who really loves and concerns about me by lending their hands to get me back to my true self and stand still. If I never have the moment, I will never think about Steemit and made a comeback to meet @wakeupkitty, @anroja, @hasinbadir, @aneukpineung78, @muzack1, @heriadi, @radjasalman, @irawandedy, @aisyahmychun, @asiahaiss, @el-nailul, @firyfaiz, @alee75 again.

I believe those momentous moments have shaped me to be the true me today

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@goodybest, Thanks for hosting the contest. I will never know that I can really write this loooooooooooooooooooooooooong post and spend 8 hours on this!! Love ya!

Last but not least, I would like to invite @misterreza, @seribubulan and @ramadhayani84 to join in

Thanks for stopping by and see you around ^_^