Would your parents pressure you to get married because of your age?"
INTRODUCTION
Hello there, I'm your girl @glorious1 from Nigeria and I'm here to discuss this kind of very interesting topic "would your parents pressure you to get married because of your age?"All thanks to @vfund for this contest.
It's actually a yes.
They will definitely pressure, till it may sometimes get you so angered or get you into making a choice you wouldn't have made, just because you are fed up by their consistent pressure and you are like, let me just get this done and over with.
Here in Nigeria where I come from, marriage is seen as a kind of achievement, so when you aren't married there's so much questions that arises towards you. Questions like " why aren't you married? Like I am the one that is to marry someone (remember I am the lady here). Or" Is it that someone hasn't asked your hand in marriage? Or there must be something about your character. Or maybe you have such high taste that you are looking down on some prospective suitors. All these questions arises and they cause our parents to try their possible best to make sure you are either married or married. They don't want to be talk about in meetings, they don't want to be pointed out in the market, or be the topic of gossip as the parents of children that aren't married. So to avoid this, they pressure is on the innocent children that they must get married at all cost.
It gets worse when you get to a certain age, like above 35. Hmmm you are in deep trouble.
I have an aunt. She is a graduate, working and doing well, based in Lagos in Nigeria and never traveled home to Akwa-Ibom to visit her parents because at any instance her mother sights her, after the usual greeting, the next thing is" is there any man that wants to marry you? " and she's like, not yet, God will do it in his time. The mother will just start to cry seriously and start mentioning the people that have married the past three years and that she has been contributing in women's meeting for other peoples children marriage and she's tired, that she wants people to also come and contribute for her child marriage also. I guess I should add that this pressure is more on the ladies than the men.
So this my aunt has had enough of the show, this made her avoid coming home. She chose to be sending money for moms upkeep, then volla she got mom a phone, since that day, every morning she wakes up to her call and ends the night with her call on this same issue of marriage. I thank God, she finally got married but I dare to say I wasn't impressed by the man she got married to because she had to pick up someone from who knows where, refurbished him so he could be presentable. Used her own resources to marry him and now she's the bread winner and Oga has refused to work and be useful in the marriage. This situation according to my aunt is choking her but she has to endure cos she got herself into it cos of her mom's pressure.
It's a Yes, Yes. My parents are even pressuring me now cos I'm above 35 but I'm lucky my dad's on my side. He says I should take my time and shouldn't appear desperate so that a man will not take advantage of me and so that I will not make a mistake that will cost me my joy and peace for many years. I know he's a good man but I'm afraid if something doesn't happen fast he may not sound this good anymore. He will join my mom that's constantly reminding me of my original birth certificate(Don't laugh, you know we ladies have many birth dates). I hope and pray it doesn't get to that. I pray I should be married as soon as possible. Thanks a lot. I hope you enjoy my write up and reasoning.
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