Pretend to be stupid? Or just stay away?

There are people in our everyday life or some, we barely know that we dislike, we can not stay with them for five minutes, they are nervous about us, we just can’t stand them and make us feel embarrassed or they create us negative feelings.

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These can be either men or women, young or old, educated or not, rich or poor, popular or not and in general of any social or economic level.

They are often found among us, mixed in our lives, right on our feet...we are obliged to tolerate them, to cooperate with them, to talk to them, to work with them, to share the same roof and to be relatives even friends or comrades.

I could explain why we do not like those people...that they repel us and want us to be away from them, that they disturb us and prevent us from living our lives as we want, with this suggestion:

Against these people we feel disadvantaged, for different reasons each time, since situations and scenarios are countless.

We feel disadvantaged because they are preventing us from doing what we want, because they are not listening to us because they have something we would like to have, because they are doing something we would like to do, because they are not as we would like them to be, because they do not behave as we would like them to...

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Also because they do not behave as we think they should, because we do not accept them as they are, because we would like them to be as we want them to be, because they have something we would not want them to have, even because they act in ways that we are afraid of or do not know how to deal with and finally because their behavior is creating situations in which we feel powerless, disadvantageous and degraded.

Are those reasons enough? I’ll take that as a yes...

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All of the above leads us to a fictitious disadvantage towards them and that's why we do not want to to have anything to do with them.

The reason is that it is in our nature that we want to be socialized with people who make us feel superior, who listen to us when we talk, care for our words and propose solutions to our problems, who care for us, who support us and they constantly remind us how good we are and that they will never reject us.

On the contrary, we avoid or resent people, environments and situations where we feel inferior, where we feel that our opinion has no value where they do not listen to us, mistreat us, where they expose us, where they constantly emphasize our negative elements, where we do not feel comfortable with and can not be ourselves.

The problem, however, is not them, but us...

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We can not manage such situations or fear to deal with, because we are not ourselves, because we are oppressed, because we do not get in their place and we do not understand the reasons prompting them to be so disgusting, always guided by our own perception of them, since surely there will be people who will not have a particular problem of dealing with them...

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These dislikeful to us people are usually low self-esteem personalities and try to feel better by pointing out their strengths and judging others by continually highlighting the mistakes of the latter.

They seek attention, confirmation and acceptance, so they do not want to be unfair or wrong, because they are afraid to admit that they are not perfect and that they can be wrong.

They want to talk, but they do not listen, they want to be in the center and seek admiration while criticizing anything that does not reflect their expectations.

From our own point of view we ought not to treat their negative behavior with negative behavior, but with positive thinking and energy, understand that everyone has their own reasons to react in a particular way and that everyone carries his own story and try to take nothing personally...

We must always think that we are humans and that we need our fellow humans to survive...

So the next time, when you meet such a person, observe your reactions and your feelings, try to be as polite as possible and do not go against negative behaviors, because anything negative that starts or continues from us, fires back like a gun...

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Until next time....

Cheers @mindtrap