The stigma of the adopted child.

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The stigma of adopted child has many diverse perspectives or misconceptions. Every individual needs a conducive environment for easy adaption, to achieve this some barriers maybe broken in other to create an enabling environment for everyone. Understanding is the key point to breaking the scar on/of the adopted child. anyway let's get to know about the scar (STIGMA) of the adopted child as our today's topic of discussion.

The above question (statement)on who shouldn't or should address/represent the family is a complex one but it depends greatly on who deem fit for the job. nevertheless, the one to address or represent the family will be he/she (the adopted/biological child) who is mentally emotionally, physically (generally) fit to speak for the benefit of the family. He shouldn't be the one who will throw their (family) reputation/quality to the mud while addressing the general public.

However, there are things to note in the cause of making such decisions. Because in most cases the adopted or the first son might not possess the qualities of carrying out the task of representing the family. Communication skills, the maturity, relationship with outside individuals in representing and upholding the family interest, The willingness to make himself available to represent the family are key fact 👌 to note which any one among the children can possess.

So anyone between them can represent the family since is in the interest of the family be it last born.

This in most cases solely depends on individual (family) perceptions. But to me is a yes, adopted kids (child/children) have more than equal rights and privileges as biological children as well.

In most of states (countries) adopted kids are accepted without differences with freedom to move freely with everyone, freedom to speech, they're not denied the freedom to speak about their pressing needs, they're also privilege learn about everything within and beyond their reach. In general adopted kids are equal to the task of been loved same way biological Children are loved and cared for.

Equal rights should be made available for both adopted and biological children since everyone is for and not against the interest of the family. Although in some cases the family may later make the adopted child feel not wanted in the family anymore because he's not their blood, if they later give birth to their own child. Which shouldn't be encouraged and is very improper.

Everyone, who grew up as a kid knows what motherly love looks like. Is a strong bond that can't be broken. Nevertheless, there are some things to note that it can/may likely change this motherly unbroken bond for her child (children) to be broken.

The a child maltreat/mal-handled may triggered her into having trust issues with other kids including her own biological children also. It happen to me while growing up i was loved so much that i couldn't believe i will one day be seeing as an enemy by my own mother until i break one of her rules. That's when i realized that change is always constant even with the maternal love.

In my community there's nothing like adoption rather than ones parents give him/she out as a helper to one of the immediate family member who may/don't have a child yet.

But the very day i went outside my community i started hearing and get to know about adopted children(adoption). So i will only speak about what/how i heard about adopted children, things they confront in their journey of adoption either good or bad experiences. Adopted children often at times asked themselves if they are worthlessness to their own parents by giving out for adoption or their parents are no more? but yet are still loved/valued by their adopted parents or was it just because they don't/haven't bore a child yet?

Do they have a place in the family/society or they don't? for some of the above reasons some adoptive parents chose not to let the adopted kids know about their real identity for the fear of loosen them. But not telling them earlier or later on may be an unfair treatment and may seem to be as not in the interest of that child.

For every concerned individual creating room for freedom to speak earlier on emotional/issues on who they are and why/how they are worth to the family and society at large with both adopted and biological children will create a positive impression.

both adopted kids and adoptive parents Accepting the joy and happiness in their union as a family will create an unbroken bond between them. every child be it adopted or biological is a unique gift to who has it, accepting adopted children with open mind give them renowned hope. This should be as a reason love is build outside the bloodline and see everyone as a family.

I invite
@usoro01, @samuelnkenta
@vudeme123, @bossj23
@patjewell and
@mp2 to join in this contest and tell us about their opinions.

Cc @okere-blessing