“Money and Marriage”

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I want to say thank you to @manuelhooks for organising a contest as this here on the platform as I invite @anthony002, @justiceanietie and @spanky-dollar to take part in this contest.

Money is an aspect of happiness in a marriage. It is not central to a family’s happiness, but contributes so much to the happiness of the members of the family. A family needs peace of mind and love and understanding to live a happy life. If there’s an understanding in the family, then other things will just fall in place for the smooth running of the home.

There are so many of them. Almost all the issues in a home are money related. It’s either there’s no money at all, or the money is badly or selfishly managed by them. They include:

1. Debts: Owing is one thing that can put a person, even a couple in trouble. I’d like to look at it from a very practical example I’ve witnessed. I knew of a couple who were newly married. Their wedding was so nice and flamboyant that it was the talk of the town for weeks. It was indeed in a grand style. After a few weeks of their marriage, we noticed they used to have quarrels in the house trying to pay all the debts they had during their marriage. While the husband was busy blaming the wife of hiring an expensive make-up artist and all of that, the wife accused the husband of wanting to show off to his friends what he could do on his wedding day, thus, they had to be in that situation. The point is, so many people just want to impress others unnecessarily without looking at their capabilities.
   
   

2. Splitting of Bills: When couples in a home want to do things independent of their own, it could bring about problems. The wife should support the husband where she feels she must willingly without being compelled to do so.
   
   

3. Misunderstanding And Arguments: When there is a lack of understanding between a couple, then money itself cannot solve it. Understanding comes first which births respect for each other.
   
   

4. Poor Training of The Kids: Money affects the way a child is trained in some aspects. If there’s not enough money at home, kids could feed poorly, attend a poor school, dress tardily, or even think poorly. This is why couples also have issues when it comes to training their kids.

This is pure selfishness in marriage and nothing else. It could also be described as greed. A couple is meant to have a deep understanding of each other’s needs and be ready to handle them. If one person wants to have more than the other selfishly, it is no way going to be a peaceful home. This kind of situation needs to be attended to by counsellors to avoid commotion in the home. Each person works so hard for the home, and not to save it while enjoying the other person’s sweat without contributing. Roles should be well-defined and known by these parties. And then, each person will not have to wait to be told what they need to do or not.

She is not. If a woman puts her time and effort to earn some income, why submit it to the husband? The only thing that matters here is that she’s faithful to her spouse and transparent with her salary. A wise woman will use her salary to support and build her own home. It is very okay if they understand having a joint account, but they must be sure that they are doing the right thing.

There is a lot of competition lately. The world is changing so quickly, and people do not want to be left behind.
But it would be nice to note that:

• Moderate living is very okay.
• Happiness: a couple’s happiness is paramount, and efforts should be made to live a happy life, than a wealthy and sad one.
• Contentment: before a couple get together, they must’ve been satisfied being around each other, this also is primary than faking what’s not there that can cause problems.

Everything in marriage boils down to a balance of everything. If there’s no money in a marriage, a person can be tempted to regret ever getting married in the first place. There should be a balance of wealth, and the respect for their marriage. All a couple wants is a standard kind of life with true happiness.