My personal perspective about courtship
Hello friends,
Welcome to my blog! Let's discuss courtship.
First, what is courtship? Courtship is a period in a romantic relationship when couples are dating. In my own understanding, I would say that courtship is a platform that is opened in a romantic relationship for couples to learn and know themselves.
Courtship is a foundation built before marriage. Although in the world today, people no longer court nor date before entering into marriage. Sometimes I feel this is an individual thing because everyone knows what they want and don't want.
Getting to know each other at the foundational level is very good because marriage is like a wrapped gift, until you get to your closet before you open it, so knowing one another through the platform of courtship would help couples know their likes and dislikes, their dos and don'ts, develop maturity in their sense of reasoning and handling some problems, respect each other's privacy and space, and work and solve problems together. Only then can we say that these couples are ready for marriage.
Just as courtship is a platform to know each other, I don't think that partners should hide anything from each other because finding out later after marriage would be a disaster. You have the whole opportunity to open up during courtship.
The beginning part of a courtship is time to get along, and as time goes on, the couples are to open up to each other, starting with sharing their past. It doesn't mean anything if your partner knows about you totally, though people still keep things because they don't want to be left by their partner, but believe me, it is better you say it out than hide it.
Courtship is a journey and has no time limit; what's important is for partners to have a mutual understanding between themselves and families. It is not how long a courtship lasts, but how well they were able to build it. It's like building a house; when the foundation is faulty, what else can be done?
However, courtship is not a guarantee for marriage. A lot of people court and still go their separate ways; others court and finally end up in marriage, but one thing is sure: "courtship is not a guarantee for marriage.".
Some partners split up after hearing each other's past, while others wave it off and move on. Getting to know each other better is the best thing in a courtship because you can't marry someone you don't know anything about; it's like trapping yourself in a cage because with time everything would unfold.
Just set your heart right when in courtship and let things out, and if your partner doesn't want you, then they don't love you, but that doesn't mean you shut out of opening up to them.
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