My Personal Perspective on Courtship

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Courtship is a phase of getting to know someone on a deeper level with and intention of nurturing a long term relationship -marriage. It's involves getting to know someone better so as to understand his/her difference, learn to tolerate, adjust and make room for compromise for a successful marital relationship.

Although, in reality no matter how long you think you've studied and understood a partner during courtship period, it may never be a guarantee for a successful marriage and in some some cases, it may shock you to realise that despite the years of courtship there are certain aspectual characteristics you could never have studied enough to gain insight; it's on this premise you'll learn that marriage just as the Bible rightly put, is a mystery between a man and a woman.

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What is your understanding about the word courtship?

From my personal point of view, courtship is a meaningful journey where two people learn about each other's values, goals, characteristics and personalities. It's not just about romantic aspects but also about building a solid foundation of friendship, trust, and understanding. Courtship gives room for individuals to see if they are truly compatible and to make informed decisions about their future together. It’s a process that, when approached with sincerity and respect leads to a fulfilling and enduring relationship.

How can people in courtship maintain a good relationship that can lead to marriage?

This can be achieved by proper studying and understanding each other's likes differences. Getting to know each other's likes and dislikes, the personality traits, the cultural background, family set up, goal and ambition can help to create room for adjustment, understanding, tolerance, empathy, compromise and boundaries setting. Your partner should know you from the onset, what you can take and what you can't and also there should be a mutual understanding of each other with compromise, because in marital relationship, you've got to come down from your standard inorder to maintain successful marriage taking cognisance of the individual differences.

Are there things to be hidden during courtship? If yes what are they. If No back your answers with your reasons.

Yes! What I think should be hidden during courtship is certain ugly past that may not be good enough if your partner dares hear or know about it such as past sexual immoral misbehaviour, stealing and cases abortion for the woman and other negative social vices. But wait a minute! what if after marriage your partner finds these things out, would it not still be the same. I think it's better to open up, if he/she can still cope from the beginning.

On the No side , I don't think anything pertaining to character, individual differences should be hidden during courtship. Though it depends on the individuals ability to contain certain information or story being told.

Do you think there's time frame in courtship? Explain.

Somehow, there should be a timeline for courtship so that the individuals involved won't have ground to be tempted into another relationship or being wandering and doubting each other. At most courtship should take 6 months to one year.

Courtship has never been a guarantee for a lasting marriage. In fact in most cases. You can date for many without much issues but after the real marriage, marital challenges start creeping in such a way that you doubt if this the partner you have courted for years.

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Courtship is a getting to know phase for couple intended to spend their life together. Through courtship, you can study someone better so as to understand his/her difference, tolerate, adjust and make room for compromise for a successful marital relationship. Courtship is not a guarantee for successful marriage, it can only allows the individuals involved to learn to understand each other's differences and to make adjustments where necessary

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