Contest: Life Reflections

We look at our lives most times and feel we worth better than this. Those in rural areas wish they were in urban, enjoying money and life. Most people think they are just miserable but what is this life all about. Have you spent time on life reflections? This post says it all.

Pexel

Unfortunately, I've felt that way before and I am going to mention 2 aspects. First, I want to take a trip down memory lane before I come back to the present. 11 years ago when I was in junior high school, I was this little kid who was surrounded by her peers who were either healthier, bigger or more beautiful than I was, or so I thought. Especially one of my friend, a close friend then, we used to do everything together but I always felt inferior to her because then, she was bigger than I was, taller, and reached puberty faster than i did.

I always believed she was better than I was, I even started hating how small I was, checking the Internet to see how I could force puberty so that I'll be like her. And all these feelings stemed from a place of insecurity and feeling like I didn't measure up to her. I didn't know that physical appearance was just one aspect of who I was and not the most important one.

Coming back to the present, you would think I had outgrown feeling like someone was better than I was but that wasn't the case here, because in as much as I was past feeling overwhelmed by my physical appearance, it didn't mean other aspects of my life was free.
And so when it came to professional success and career achievements, there's another lady I felt was better than I was because of everything she had achieved in Just a short while and she's only a year older than I am whereas here I was, not really seeing spontaneous growth in my own professional path which left me with feelings of dissatisfaction and yet again, I failed to see that career paths looked different for everyone and while some people prioritized money and power, others prioritized meaning and fulfillment.

Well, if I'm being totally honest, I have more of personalities that I'll love to change amd they include;

• Neuroticism: which is the act of always being overly sensitive, anxious or depressed.

• A people pleaser that's always putting the nerds of others above her own

• Perfectionism: Always trying to be perfect and never feeling good enough

Pexel

Absolutely! I think reflection and self-awareness are actually healthy and important parts of my personal growth and development. I also think It is important to acknowledge my imperfections and mistakes, so that I can learn from them and improve myself. So, rather than beating myself up because of a mistake I made, I can open my mind to being objective and try learning what I can do differently in the future. This kind of reflection can help me to develop more self-compassion and resilience towards myself. 😊

Also, it's important to remember that no one is perfect, and that it's okay to make mistakes. Everyone has their own unique strengths and weaknesses, and that's what makes life interesting and diverse. So, It's not about being flawless, but rather about embracing my unique qualities and learning to accept myself for I am.

Perfectionism like I mentioned earlier, I learnt that it can be a trap that prevents us from living a full and happy life. If we focus on being perfect, we may miss out on opportunities and experiences because we're afraid of making a mistake. So, it's vital to find a healthy balance between striving for excellence and being kind to ourselves as well.

Truthfully, with everything I've learnt so far in my short years in earth, I don't think I would want to change my looks even if I was given the opportunity from God. That's because I've come to accept myself for who I am and not just that, I've come to identify with my appearance and I know my looks are just a personification to my journey and my story and I won't want that to be taken away from me...Although, if it came to other parts of my body, I may love to add up a little and that's it.😁

I invite @uduak01, @usoro01 and @goodybest