The Green Spotlight #17; I almost ruined my marriage.

Hello friend, good to have you on the seventeenth edition of The Green Spotlight. You are welcome.

The Green Spotlight is a weekly review of great and inspiring books which is geared towards wetting people’s appetite to want to read and explore the dividends of reading.

When we read, we interact with the mindset of the author and widen our scope of understanding of the subject in question and a reader is always ahead of others due to the numerous wisdom gleaned from the different authors interacted with.

This week’s review, we would be looking at an interesting book on relationship from a woman I love and respect. The book of review this week is “I almost ruined my marriage”.

Unto the review of the week

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Author: Eno Jerry
Year published: 2017
Number of chapters: 10
Number of pages: 80
Published by : Naphthali Prints Nig. Ltd

My opinion about the book “I almost ruined my marriage”

Introduction/Theme

Marriage is a beautiful institution and we all one day look forward to having a prince or princess charming who is going to make the butterflies in our bellies fly and we look forward to spending forever with this prince or princess charming.

The question is are we ready or prepared to make the time we spend with this person who we fell in love with worthwhile and do we all have what it takes to make our marriages work.

What if we are carrying a lot of baggages from our past and these tend to hamper the happiness we looked forward to in our blissful union? That’s food for thought.

Meanwhile let’s look at some key points to take away from this interesting piece. Shall we?

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Key points from the chapters

• Let’s start with a question. Who are you? Do you know that who you are before marriage would affect you when you finally get married. A lot of us come from different backgrounds with different ideologies and mindsets.

The amazing thing is that we want someone out there to love us just the way we are, with all of our bad characters and issues not minding how that may affect them negatively. So the question is are you willing to change from bad to good?

• Many people are in bondage to different emotions especially anger. Do you get angry easily? Are you irrational? Do you always feel that people are trying to change you when they point out your flaws?

Do you know that your emotions can cause major cracks in your marriage which may even lead to marital failure if not checked. The author succinctly explained how her emotions got the worst of her that almost ruined her marriage. You should read this for yourself.

• The subject of disrespect can never be over emphasized in marriage. What love is to a woman is what respect is to a man. Many husbands are starved of respect in their homes.

Many marriages are on the verge of collapse because the subject of respect has been a bone of contention in marriages. Men’s need to be respected in their homes as the head must not be downplayed on.

• Do you know that issues like bitterness, anger, assumptions, lack of respect can ruin a once beautiful marriage. If you find yourself in any of this rut, don’t excuse it away. You should begin a journey to being a better version of you.

No one deserves the worst of us not even our loved ones. If our bid to change we must understand that patience is key and we must not stop until giant improvements are made. Why not see what the author says about the steps she took towards change.

• The spouses must be very supportive of each other and be patient with each other if their marriages must work. We must trust Our relationship with God and his guidance and help to deal with negative issues threatening our marriages.

Marriage is a beautiful thing and should be enjoyed not endured. The author highlighted her mistakes and the giant steps she took to save her marriage from crashing. We all could learn from her experiences and examples.

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My rating of the book

I almost ruined my marriage is a sincere and heart felt book from a woman who wants others to learn from her mistakes. Now a better person, she wasn’t shamed to let others know that they can be better too.

The practical steps she laid out is worthy of note. I give it a rating of 9/10 for its succinctness and practicality.

Conclusion

The best way to follow through a path is to follow those who have successfully gone through the route. No two marriages are the same but we all see similar threads running through marriages such as the subject of respect.

Why not quip yourself with the much needed knowledge. Better to get there and find out it’s not needed than to arrive bankrupt.

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