Hi steemians, I am glad to join in this week’s contest, and the contest topic for this week is such a great one. A topic we can share our good attributes for others to learn and also share or bad attributes so we can get possible recommendation from other who have been able to deal with this. I’m happy to share mine here and I will be happy to read and learn from others as I engage in their post for this week.

what is Character?

character is defined in how your habits, motives, thoughts, and so on relate to morality, particularly as it concerns integrity.

What are the 3 worst Characters that you sometimes display that even you condemn?

Loving, Tender hearted and caring:

Growing up I discovered I had a different kind of perspective in many areas from what I can see from others. I was never comfortable seeing someone cry, I was never comfortable when someone around me is not fine even when I don’t have the means of making them comfortable. My mom taught me to help and be a source of blessing to others, she also made me know I was not just the normal kid around, my mom taught me to be a source of happiness to others. My dad also shared stories from the bible with me especially from the story of Gideon. He reminds me my name is Gideon and I will be a source of help to others.
These trainings sticked into my subconscious mind and I always find a way to care for people in need of care and love with whatever little resources I have. This in turns makes me feel happy and fulfilled. Seeing a smile on the faces of people around me makes me smile.

Sacrificial

Living a sacrificial life is always not easy but if we can learn to do so the world will be a better place. I learnt to make sacrifices when necessary for others. This is sometimes not very easy but it’s always worth it.

Trustworthiness

Growing up I discovered a lot of people want to confide in me, this was something I didn’t understand at first. I wondered why young and old people even my mates always confide in me, they come asking for counsels from me. I kept issues shared with me confidential and as a result it encouraged me to pray more for friends passionately once I know their problems.

Later on, I became a church president over young people and the attribute helped me to be able to listen to people without exploiting their weakness. In return I discovered I have been held in high esteem by those who come around me.

Would you advice others to display them?

My advice to others is that we should do same, love and show care to people in need. Make sacrifices where necessary, be trustworthy, don’t be a gossiper or someone who exploits people’s weakness because they have shared their vulnerable aspects with you. Doing this can save a dying soul and the world will be a better place.

What are the 3 worst characters that you sometimes display that even you condemn?

Harboring resentments:

There is this aspect of my life I have struggled with for a long time, which is the fact that I harbor resentment. I don’t get angry easily. I let things go easily… but whenever I am truly hurt or I feel betrayed I hardly forget or forgive. This has been a challenge for me. Even when I want to let go I don’t see it going.
This is so because I always expect people to behave better, I expect people to love back the way I do. But most times this is not so and it becomes difficult to forgive. I often hear people say “I just forgave him/her” and I always ask genuinely…. Please help me, how did you do it?. Its hard for me to get angry and also hard for me to forgive. And sometimes I get a good advice from a few. I also pray passionately when I feel so sad about issues and overtime it goes away.
Forgiving very easily is the challenge not forgiving. Having studied about temperament I discovered it is also a temperamental issue

Not socializing:

Not being able to socialize properly has also been another problem for me. I always stay in isolation; I hardly mix and make new friends easily as well as I find it hard to lose a friend. I remember living in a place for a year and my next-door neighbors didn’t know my name. they rarely saw me nor spoke to me. This is a very bad attitude which I am working on. I’m a work in progress.

Procrastinating:

“I will place the call later in the day”, only to remember 2days later. This has been one of my challenges. Though it doesn’t cut across my job but when it gets to checking up on some people and doing some few things, I find myself procrastinating. This is bad and I am working on this using reminder to help keep me in check.

Will you like to stop them? What efforts have you been making towards stopping them?

For ever negative character I display and I don’t like I have always desired to stop them. And I have always asked for help from those who have been able to overcome such characters.
One of the ways I try to work on this is to always ask for counsel from people who I find this attribute I desire in. I also pray and consciously try to do them even when it is not convenient for me.

This is my entry for this week I hope you find it worthwhile.
I invite:

@Concord-leo
@Santhoshpriya
@bennethade