A divorced single mother wrote:

I am writing to tell you that it is important to appreciate the qualities of your spouse, even if they have flaws.

I am 32 years old.

My ex-husband and I dated for 6 years.

We were best friends.

I waited until he finished college and started working.

Then my family and his family met.

We got married and had a son. [now 7 years old].

My husband used to get angry at times but our problems started when I tried to make him feel that he could not control me.

Whenever we had an argument, I would pack my things and go to my family and explain the situation to them.

My sisters used to call my husband and yell at him.

If he tried to control me, I would always tell him that he could divorce me if he wanted to.

I never wanted a divorce.

I only cared about my honor and I never wanted to be a weak woman in his eyes.

One day I teased him so much that for the first time he beat me and threw me out of the house.

I went to my family, my family reported him to the police, every time it seemed like I was the victim!

But in reality, I used to hurt my husband emotionally.

He was arrested and detained.

His family asked me to withdraw the case.

I felt that I was doing wrong.

My husband was never a violent person, he did what he did because I forced him and he apologized openly.

I withdrew the case, and we were reunited.

Three months later, on a minor issue I packed up again and he was left alone.

Two days later, I got a call that he was in the hospital.

My family told me not to go there because it would look like I was going to celebrate him and my sisters believed he was faking illness.

Meanwhile, people continued to treat me as oppressed as if I were the victim of oppression.

He stayed in the hospital for a week, when he came back, I only got a divorce notice.

I wanted to reject the divorce, but because of my pride, I wanted him to change his mind and apologize to me.

I called her and told her to get a divorce because I was living in hell.

When we went to court, I wanted him to pay the price, so I asked the court to divide his property.

To my surprise, he openly told the court that whatever we have earned together should be given to me, he just wants a divorce.

We got divorced in July 2009.

Now, my husband is married, while I'm wasting away here!

My family gossips about me.

I depend on what my ex-husband provides for my son for my survival.

I know I ruined my marriage.

I am telling all wives here that they should be careful while taking advice.

Don't be deceived, don't let your family interfere in your marriage my dear reader.

Even my younger sisters get more respect than me.

The people who encouraged me to get a divorce always make fun of me and say bad things about me