A man who aims to be a perfect husband and father

Hello fellow steemian, friends and folks,

The concept of a real man rooted through the history of mankind. In various personal, societal and cultural interpretation, real man interprets as being responsible in all words, works then plus great obligation, a real man is identified by his experiences disregarded into his physical appearance. He is identified by the strength he possesses, he endures and carried, he is observed by a hard jobs he went through, and by his skills he acquires individually and most important by his soft treatment towards women.

In behalf of it, a well experience real man is distinguished by his past, he must have undergone hard problems and solve such without much aid of others, which he must remain great and strong. Passing through hard problems from financial, health, education, training and etc., he must have tried being bitten by random animals, had some wounds, accident and beat random pain.

A real man has the strength and physically strong, mentally awake, spiritually and morally straight, he is active and industrious at all times, he must not be weary, he must have really a servant of God, he must have the blueprint for his future, he is not afraid of the dark. He calm his mind during stressful moments, he must have the wisdom driven from the religious aspects, he speak like a God himself. And a real man understands the importance of taking a responsibility for his action and accepting obligations which involves welcoming ones mistakes, apologizing, learning from them and striving to improvement, he contributes to the goodness of his community, stand-up against injustice, promotes equality and help those who are in needed.

He have something of a skills or talent, its either learned or inherited, he must be good at something which he can be used for endeavors and for livelihood, he walk and talks professional. A real man is aware of the things happened in his area, he is able to control his own body and temptations, he listen to others and to nature.

A real man does not hurt any woman's feeling, he is gentle and kind, he must not abuse her or take advantage, he understands the capacity of his opposite sex, emotions of a women and fostering mutual relationship. He is dominant over women but not to be little them or mistreat them but to assure them protection, comfort and trust.

A man is really different from a boy by the following determination, which a man has better control in his emotions, he is not aggressive in decision making while a boy struggles with emotion, explodes and difficulty in expression. A man accept defeat and consequences of his action while a boy usually commit mistakes due to being irresponsible. A man continuously improves and learning from his past, open on feedback, adapt and overcomes, he strive to become a better version of himself while a boy is less focus on his personal growth. A boy is more into emotions and avoidance or resistance of hardships. A man valued and nurtures relationship, he initiate and handle women with care, he prioritize of his loveones and maintain a healthy communication or connection. Inwhich a boy struggles conflict resolution leading to distorted relationship.

Now, I have so much definition and comparison to be a perfect husband and father, which one must obtain the above quality of a real man. And before he enters into building a family, he must be equipped with knowledge, skills, values, and wisdom.

So let me share to you friends my ultimate plan why I did all of this jobs since my puberty. Which I am really striving to be a perfect man of myself, intact with knowledge, skills, values and wisdom. Which all I want for my family is to be proud of me, that I am a well informed of anything and more educated, a well experience on things.

Which I have identified my weakness, my bad side, my limitation as a normal person but I really don’t stop and I'm trying to improve, adapt and overcome on problems. I am a patient person because I know a perfect father and husband is willing to invest time, set goals with positive outlook and understand emotions and a source of inspiration to my partner.

I am striving to communicate well not literally to speak out but by balancing the situation during social times. I listen before I speak, I teach and willing to received lessons, I think before I do, I put God first at all times and I don’t decide right away but when I do, I commit to it and I stand by it.

Honestly, this part is my weakness, I am a workaholic person. I mostly spend my time doing random things which improve by myself in return. I fail sometimes expenses towards my family, the reason why I don’t spend much is that I am afraid of having lot of lots of debt. Which as of now I have debts, one is on my loan and the others in our sinking funds, I stand firm in the temptation of buying unnecessary material things but I spent really on our foods, and I give regularly my children their expenses in school which they just understand during difficult time.

Because a perfect father and husband is a role model in his own house and must possess various positive qualities. Remember, no one is perfect because we're just random person, but everyone has room for growth and improvement. However, striving to become these qualities can help create a strong, loving, and supportive family environment with Gods fear and love. A perfect father and husband has love and affection, patience, understanding, supportive, is responsible, well educated, compassionate. And a perfect father and husband possesses a combination of various positive qualities that contribute to a strong, loving, and supportive family environment.

So, this is gonna be me, all me!
Thanks and regards,
Natz04 :)