Engagement Challenge (SEC) Wk14:#1: Neglect in families and effects on Kids by @hannybanny. 10

Hello esteemed parents, kids and friends of steemit. Welcome to the last Wednesday in November 2023. The Most High God will rule and reign in your affairs this week.

Today, i am here to join in the above interesting challenge. Let's learn as we read on.

What does neglect of Responsibility means in a family.

Neglect of responsibility in a family means lack of attention and care. Not spending enough time with the family or failure to care about their feelings and needs. We all know that a child's basic needs are food, clothing and shelter. When they are not properly met or taken care of it is a negligence on the side of the parents. This could be through ignoring, intimidating or humiliating them and this can affect a child's physical and mental health.

Have you been neglected or seen anyone neglected?

Yes, I have been neglected by my father when I was a baby. My mother gave birth to a girl - child as the first daughter, followed by my second and third sister. I came as a fourth daughter and my father grew angry and abandoned us and left to another woman. Telling my mother that he thought she was coming to make a good family. My mother on her own struggle to take care of us single handedly.

It was difficult for my mother to feed us and pay for our shelter. When we became teens, we have to hawk to assist our mother. Going to school was another problem, one had to stay away from school for another to go. This incident cause use to hate our father when he latter came back because outside was not good enough for him. We lost that father and child relationship.

What are the effects on the kids?

• They lack self compassion
• They think that the only way of receiving love is by meeting others need
• They carry a deep feeling of emptiness
• They don't expect their needs to be met

Maltreatment can cause a child to feel isolated, fear and distrust which can lead to long life psychological consequences and these can manifest as educational difficulties, low-self esteem and trouble maintaining relationship.

Your advice to parents who neglect their responsibilities towards their kids.

The parents first responsibilities are to keep their children safe by protecting their mental and physical health.

Parents should supervise and build up their children in the way they should grow so that when they are old they will not depart from it.

Teaching them moral values, respect and the difference between wrong and right.

Your advice to the kids who are neglected

My heart felt advice to the neglected kids is that they should focus on themselves. They should be encouraged to talk to trusted adult for help. Be comfort and respectful, accept that your emotions are blocked off, but there are still there waiting for you.

Thank you my beloved ones for spending time to read this few words of mine. We should endeavour to encourage the hurt and the needy as God is the rewarder that will satisfy us.

Thanks.