Babies Change Marriage How? Part 1: by@delightdear

Hello beautiful mummies, it has really been awhile, i trust everyone is doing great? I miss you guys but trust me i have been going through all your posts here. I want to share my work with you amazing mummies because it is something that affects if not every married woman but majority are going through this. Guess what? You mummies are the first to read my work.

The birth of a child comes with both thrilling and overwhelming feelings. To some he or she is a bundle of joy and they are happy to receive such news, to others he is a mistake or bad news. Irrespective of how a child comes, children are precious gifts from God. A child needs their parent's love and attention more than just carrying him on your laps to feed or bath him. Beautiful attachment between mother and baby grow as they spend time together before and after the birth of a child. A mother caressing her baby and talking to the baby are crucial to filling the baby's emotional needs. Parents should be fond of their child or children day by day.

A mother trying to cultivate a warm relationship between herself and her baby.

The decision as to which family a child should be born into is not theirs to make, if not a child would look and check very well before agreeing to be formed in any woman's womb. So if you are lucky to have one, cultivate a warm and loving relationship with your child right from the beginning of the child's life. Show lots of affection ( No child ever died from hugs and kisses). Couples who receive a child with joy appreciate God's gift and should be willing to accept the responsibility that comes with it. Yes! The birth of a child comes with lots of responsibilities such as: lack of sleep along with emotional changes, shape loss, weight gained and lots more. These changes can put a strain on your relationship with your spouse, we may feel that we (mothers) are the only ones suffering or are the only ones taking care of the child.

For instance, mothers spend their time and energy to care for the child more than the father. The mother will bath, change diaper, feed the child and even takes care of other house's chores. Some may begin to feel angry and tends to have mood swing. While attending to all these, be careful not to make your husband feels neglected. As a new mother, you naturally focus your attention on your new baby , your husband may feels neglected. In as much as your new baby needs attention, the Big baby (husband) needs your attention as well. This trivial matter may creates problems in your marriage, so this calls for team work. Together you can take care of that gift and still maintain a cordial relationship with your mate.

couples trying to rekindle their love like it was when they met.

With patience and kindness you can make your husband feels needed and wanted. You can as well involve him in caring for your child. Assign little tasks to him, show him how to change diaper, show him how to feed a child but do not criticise him when he is not doing it right. For instance, you may show your husband how to change a diaper repeatedly but he is not getting it right despite the number of times you've shown him. Kindly show him again and again, learn to be patience with him. Our society believes that caring for a child is solely a woman's responsibility and some men are not well versed or know anything about that. It is now the responsibility of the wife to help the husband in this areas. The new responsibilities may be stressful, exhausting and depressing .

At times a woman may even get upset with the husband, so husbands need to be calm and patience with their wives. A husband may come back from a stressful job and meet the wife in a depressing mood. Some men may feel like why is she angry? I'm the one to be in that mood. After all, i went to work and she was at home. Without finding out why the wife is moody, the husband may get upset coupled with his stressful day at work and they two will be moody all through, then the house will not be conducive for them.

Please stay tuned for the part 2 of this my article soon. Thank you mummies for going through this, thank you @steemkids for this forum that enables me to share my work.