The February Contest#1 by sduttaskitchen|How can we overcome domestic violence?

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Hello everyone...

Not many couples are able to maintain the "declaration" of their sacred intentions after marriage even until one of them is separated by time. Before marriage! One of the couple "might" have said "I am the first and the last person who will see gray hair grow on your head". But our should know! domestic violence is impossible to deny, because there is no "guarantee" that a household will live happily into old age. Even if you have spent part of the golden mountain and are witnessed by a million angels when you get married.

I think tips to avoid domestic violence are available more than we would like, but! Can they be implemented when a husband and wife are in a difficult situation? Because a person's "patient and kind" nature will be seen when he is in trouble and problems.

I'm not too worried if one partner doesn't have a mental illness such as stress or drug addiction... it may include emotionality and excessive jealousy.

I only offer tips, lets "learning how to solve problems properly and avoiding negative thoughts towards your partner". Basically, domestic violence starts with trivial things, and then "blossoms and getting more complicated" because of not being able to adapt or solve a problem wisely.

The next discussion is certainly related to the above narrative. "Mutual condemnation" means that every time there is a problem in the family, one of the partners blames or accuses the other, instead of looking for the cause to solve a problem. There is another reason. But I can't touch all the human behavior in other countries. In today's modern era, Indonesia is a developing country, lifestyle factors and prestige dominate the occurrence of domestic violence there. ^{image pixabay}

Social jealousy due to economic factors, yes! differences in social status, wanting to have something that is owned by others, thus forcing desires beyond their own abilities. In this context the man/husband is the object of blame because of his position as responsible for a household to fulfill all the needs of his wife and their children.

Digging deeper, there may be many other reasons for domestic violence besides prestige and lifestyle. I know! Many of us always attribute gender as the top choice of the cause of domestic violence, but I don't discuss it here because it will trigger debate or misunderstanding of opinions. because I dominantly defend religious law where a wife is the "owner of the house", must obey and obey the orders of her husband without coercion and discrimination.

The next discussion, about "charity begins at home", this beautiful sentence is a sign to encourage someone (husband or wife) not to prioritize the interests (welfare) of others or activities outside the home at large before the welfare of their own family life. The hint in the sentence does not mean "haram" if not heeded, but there are many negative sides when someone is more preoccupied with their work and business. Whether realized or not, such actions will slowly create room for conflict between married couples. ^{image pixabay}

We understand that we must be busy with work, business or any activity to create a better life, just not replacing the happiness of the family to make others happy outside the home In moments of free time..

..I raise my case as an example;

I often get a serious reprimand from my wife because I like spend time with my friends at the coffee shop. ..I realised! A day off on my job at work should be an opportunity to gather with my family at home, "not" to fulfil the desires of others who like to hang out and haha..hihi at a table while enjoying a glass of coffee.

I took a while long time to struggle to change my bad habits and lifestyle "slowly", because I recognise that these actions are wrong and will lead to domestic violence.