Movie | Gone Girl :Is marriage really the grave of love?

"Gone Girl", a magical film, unmarried people will have psychological images after watching them, and after that there will be a bit of marriage phobia. Married people have a deep understanding of this, and they are simply astonishing. I believe that any woman who lives in an unfortunate marriage because of her husband's major personality defect will hope that she is the great Amy in the film, a poisonous woman who takes cruel revenge on her husband. I think her appearance that turns her hands into clouds and covers her hands into rain, and messing with her stupid husband, will send millions of complaining housewives into collective orgasms.

Married woman, I don't know if you sometimes want to play games for husbands who really don't want to share homework and play games on the couch after a meal. He kicks her ass and wails again and again, for your heart to be refreshed.

Listening to her dig her nostrils and say casually: "You have to keep your kids at home, what hard work, this little thing can't be done well, what hypocrisy." His head expanded, letting him die on the spot.

As a person with a high IQ, highly educated, rich and handsome, lover and figure of American society, the great Amy should have no problems. However, she and thousands of women had the same problem - her husband cheated on her. After Amy disappeared, the police found her diary, which described her husband's various abuses and injustices. The incident caused an extraordinary sensation. The police accuse her husband Nick of murdering his wife Amy in a cruel manner, and the media reported on Nick's picture of the rascal. Overnight, Nick becomes a mouse crossing the street, he is chased and blocked by a mob of Americans, attacking and cursing in panic.

Seeing this, you must think that Amy is a very poor woman, and it is all the fault of Nick, the bastard husband. But why do I call Amy a poisonous woman, not a poor woman? Seriously, when a woman is being mean, there's really nothing wrong with a man. The previous girlfriends Amy had been with were almost devastated by Amy's nonsensical accusations. The worst part was that she loved Amy but was killed with a wound in her throat. Following director David Fincher's major reversal, I find out that Amy fabricated Nick's harassment plot against her in the diary. The goal is to get back at Nick by pretending to be dead and destroying him.

In the end, Amy's feminine heart and intelligence make people very scared, but Nick must continue to live with Amy. Because now Amy is in control of life and death, once divorced, Nick will be attacked by people, immersed in this obscure society, carnival to death. Amy and Nick's marriage reflects an important question: When a gap arises between reality and hope, where does the marriage stand?

When you first meet love, Amy is Nick's favorite cool girl, and Nick is the perfect man in Amy's eyes. The most beautiful sight but first, you are Snow White in my eyes, and I am Prince Charming in your eyes. But what Amy can't stand is that Nick after getting married has shed his image as the perfect man. She was indifferent, did nothing, betrayed her, ignored her ... This wasn't the Nick she loved in the first place, this wasn't her. Love is desired, the gap between idealism and reality makes Amy's perfection almost collapse.

In the end, Amy catches Nick's weakness and takes control of Nick, making him the "perfect man" again. Imagine that from now on your husband will not dare to cheat. He cares for you, takes care of you, and cares for you. He really made a perfect husband and a good father. Think, as a woman, how cool that is.

Maybe every woman has dreams about Amy. Nowadays, women also want to grab a machine gun and shoot their husbands frantically like crazy Amy. Some people don't understand why Amy watches her husband's "confessions and apologies" on TV, and ends up forgiving Nick for cheating on her. I think it's because Amy now sees the hope that her marriage will continue. She is once again looking at the man she loved years ago. In fact, many women don't have high requirements for marriage, they just want their husbands to take care of themselves, stay true to themselves, and occasionally get a little romantic surprise like when they were in love before marriage.Marriage is the grave of love, as we all know. This is a very apt analogy, but if a man really turns a marriage into a grave, he really is a fool!

"The Lost Lovers" tells the very important secret of marriage and love, namely: Despite the grim reality, love that becomes the "grave" of marriage is also the inevitable end of most lovers. You may be imperfect, or incomplete when you are in love, but always remember: Why did I fall in love with you, why did I marry you, and why do I love you?

Love is conditional, especially for love. If you show a completely different style of painting from before marriage, and make me wonder where my real lover went, I will be even more disappointed and tired of the desperate and stagnant marriage. A woman's heart, like a flower slowly withering, slowly dies.

I would like to advise all husbands who are honest, have no complaints about women's rituals, stick to your little gifts at the holidays. The gift is innocent, it can be a bouquet of roses, a piece of chocolate, it represents your heart, and more importantly, it reminds a woman of a sincere and caring look when you chase her, and see that you are the best in her eyes.The most important thing to prevent a woman from despairing of marriage is to maintain more than half of her intimate and loving care after marriage. After marriage, love has faded from lust and returned to innocence, you are busy and tired, and it is understandable that you cannot devote 100% of your energy to your wife. Small changes are understandable and welcome, but you shouldn't think that everything will be all right when you get married, turn around and become a shopkeeper, and leave all the trouble over to your wife.

It can only be said: the revolution has not been successful, comrades still need to work hard. Marriage is a never ending novel, it needs to be managed with care. It's understandable that a lot of things after marriage just can't be "perfect" as in love, but you can't justify changing from the handsome Spiderman to a messy leg scraper, can you? This will make the woman who has expectations of you feel angry and disappointed at being cheated and mocked. Friend, please treat your wife well and let the marriage feel a little love.

The final point to be discussed is ironically "media darkness, public darkness" in the film. After Amy disappeared, an uninformed mob gathered and attacked Nick under reports from the media which heightened enthusiasm, causing him to experience massive verbal abuse. In the end, when Amy directs the scene where his wife Wanli returns to her husband's arms, and the husband and wife get along well, few people know the truth behind this "perfect couple." People are always busy listening, busy talking, and playing entertainment to the game of death. In "The Crowd," the author writes: Orwell worries that what we hate will destroy us, while Huxley worries we will be destroyed by what we love.

We love gossip, we love fresh and hot news, we are addicted, but often forget to think, forget to understand the truth of the matter. There are many people who are unemployed, some people often joke in Yuan Longping's tone: The biggest mistake in my life is making you eat too much! In this era of information explosion, please manage your attention properly, don't waste your precious time on boring things, allow yourself to follow the real meaningful things to settle down.