Unspoken rules of the workplace: the more kind you are, the cheaper you are in the eyes of others

At work, there are many good-natured, kind-hearted people, when you meet good companies and colleagues, naturally you will have no trouble adapting, and you will not suffer.

But one thing must be clear. Your main goal in going to work is to make money, not make friends. The order must be correct.

Too many young white rabbits at work think that interpersonal relationships are more important, so they don't know how to reject other people. They are ashamed to say "no" to them. Most of the time, they are confused and confused. be called by others at will. In the end, they can't get the other party to give you. Attention.

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In the past, there were great people in the company. Everyone said privately that he was very cold and not very friendly. Few people dare to ask for his help. Of course, it was impossible to get ripped off for someone else. Such a figure has stood firm in the company over the years, has good relationships with senior leaders, and has survived countless layoffs.

Instead of being a good person at work, do your job well. Only if you can prove your worth, you can have unbeatable capital. Otherwise, the so-called good popularity will appear especially in the presence of vicious companies. interests. Fragile and vulnerable.

Your abilities are the best "protection umbrella." The more capable you are, the more you can win the respect of your co-workers and superiors. You don't have to be a good person right now, and relationships with other people naturally won't be so bad. And those who can't afford it, who love to study all day long, no matter how hard it is to manage the network, the interpersonal relationships will not be very good.

People these days are not stupid, they are very smart. Lack of skills means low scores. Since your grades are low, what's the point of maintaining a good relationship with you? Unless I want to use you, I can't think of any other reason.

Think carefully, Life is actually a reality. Good interpersonal relationships must also have something of value to each other. Otherwise, the unequal type of interpersonal relationship is an illusion and will not last long.

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There are colleagues in our company who are recognized as good parents, at the end of the month they are very busy and need to work overtime until late at night, as well as enthusiasm to help other colleagues.

When other people complimented him on a few words, they felt he was a great person and couldn't find him anymore, so he worked even harder to help others. Finally, because of the continuous overtime work, he was so tired that he vomited blood and was hospitalized.

I told him personally not to do this. He always said that they were all in the same company and it wasn't easy for everyone. If you can help each other, that's okay.

But the problem is, you're always helping other people, and other people don't come to help you. In the annual assessment, he was in the last few votes, and because of a small mistake, the leader did not take care of him when calculating the credit, so he became a scapegoat, and his peers also looked at him one by one. .

At work, I'm not against helping out, but I need to be in my power and weigh the pros and cons. As the saying goes, what can help and what can't be helped, I have to be clear in my heart. .

If you are blindly kind to others, but you can't get a little gratitude, and other people just enjoy your contributions with peace of mind, then you are not a good person, but a fool.

Kind and patient, unable to earn the other's respect, will only feel that you are a coward, they will look down on you even more. Once other people look down on you, how can they provide you with good interpersonal relationships?

Simply put, other people need your help, or are awkward, they are no different from a wool party, they are all trying to squeeze your "wool." Don't fall into "traps" set by others in the good name of good people, only hurting yourself.

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Several years ago, a colleague at the company had good business skills, and he was a full-time employee from the start. But in order to help a long-lagged coworker who hasn't turned positive and on the verge of elimination, she provides him with the customer information he has been painstakingly accumulating, and helps him complete the task.

As a result, the boss found out about the problem and immediately fired both of them. Someone told the boss that this colleague was nice, after all, and did not violate company rules, and was too sad to be kicked out.

The boss immediately said: Because the company has people who mean well, more and more people are lazy and unemployed. Will the company grow in the future?

This sentence reveals a truth: sometimes kindness at work is also a type of evil, because your kindness encourages co-workers' vices, and it becomes a hindrance to the company's development. Bosses are very good at doing this. Mature companies talk only about development, not kindness.

Appropriate behavior, in essence in life, not being hurt or harmed by others, is a norm that must be adhered to in the workplace.

The greatest good at work is actually doing it as often as possible and not inconveniencing other people. In the end, success or failure depends on your own abilities. Kindness doesn't matter.

Knowing how to assess and remove boundaries is a basic quality of the workplace. Don't think that rejecting other people will affect your interpersonal relationships, and that you will be perceived as being a cheapskate, but you are just getting into cognitive misunderstandings.

People who do well at work know this truth: when a person pays too little, naturally he is cheap too. If other people look down on you, that's normal.