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RE: Memory's Vault: The Suitcases Were Never Far Away...
Oh my goodness! This post makes so much sense to me as I am in the same boat.
My mom got divorced when I was small. We left the farm and I must have been in 10 primary schools as we moved around constantly. To this day I have no "best friend" and go through life on my own. My wife is my closest friend.
This explains why I am always starting new projects and I will now have a deeper look into this finding of yours.
Although I have had many opportunities, I have for no known reason always resisted traveling. However I love exploring and finding new things here at home.
Blessings and thank you for having the courage to explain this!
Thanks for the kind words @papilloncharity!
I do get the distinct impression that those who had more or less "rootless" upbringings tend to translate the experience into a quest for stability in adulthood. At the same time, I also recognize that I don't really pursue friendships, almost like it's a life skill(?) I didn't really develop. Which isn't to say that I don't like having friends... but I just don't assign it as much of a priority as others, it seems.
Like you, my wife is my closest friend. We understand each other because she had a not dissimilar upbringing.
I don't know what happened to my reply to this reply my friend.
But here goes with another reply.
My wife is the exact opposite as she had both parents and never moved until she married me. One school and a sheltered upbringing by great parents.
Since our wedding she has now moved with me, I think about 9 or 10 times hahaha. We are very close and work together at the charity and I find that her stable upbringing in a strange way helped me to become more stable.
My maximum time to stay in a job was 5 years on two occasions and all of the other years can be divided into about 15 jobs. Except of course this job that I am in now at the charity, as I started the charity in 2001, registered the charity in 2002 (got married) and I am now in 2020 still running the charity. The longest I have ever stayed and it will be my last job as I am 4 years away from 70.
Hope that you get this reply!
Blessings!