Steemit Engagement Challenge | S14W3 | Parent's Strict Behavior and Children's Mental Health

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Parent's Strict Behavior and Children's Mental Health

The theme of the contest is also no less interesting than the theme of the contest in the selected community this month, hopefully, what I wrote is useful for me personally and also to all of you who read it.

In this week's strict parent behavior and Child Mental Health contest theme, I'm starting with a religious way that I believe we can begin to break things down. In Islam, every parent must be able to educate and guide their children as best as possible, to make them succeed in the world. The life after death, the hereafter, and the hereafter are the basic foundations of this great hope. Succeeding in a broad aspect is the happiness they get from what they learn, of course, all the good things that can bring happiness. This learning starts from the way parents provide parenting and how to educate that can be received based on Islamic teachings and not be a contradiction, planting the basic value of kindness is the beginning of how strict parents are in shaping the behavior and mentality of their children in a good way and.


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Talking about how to educate children is not enough to be patient, in need of an act of firmness and measured action that has an impact on behavior and feelings. Misplaced assertiveness in educating children will affect their attitudes and actions in the future. The obstacle to educating children at a low age comes from their inability to accept binding things, because children have a way of seeing freedom as what they want.

The best way to educate children by religious teachings which I believe is to exemplify and give advice in the form of compassion in doing so. Firm does not mean hard because it is wrong, firm is meant to always advise gently to contrary things. Firmness in gentleness is a form of advice without having to hurt and Judge children.

What are the advantages and disadvantages of parents strict behaviour?

All actions of strict parents have their drawbacks and advantages, there are always two opposing sides. Being assertive without being based on advice and tenderness will make children distance themselves from what they think is not liked by their parents, even though there are many positive things they like but are hit with discomfort over the wrong assertive attitude of their parents. What do you get out of this tough behavior? parents will be safe from their children's mistakes, but forget about the feelings that children have and this becomes a time bomb that can explode in the future.


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The lack of assertive behavior is a turmoil stored in the hearts of children, there is a time when they will express their feelings with actions that are beyond our previous expectations.

But it should be noted, that if the behavior is firm without having to be hard and delivered gently with advice, I can make sure the cultivation of good values that we want them to apply and avoid mistakes, we will be able to realize as parents to our children later, without having to hurt their feelings.

What do you feel if you were at the place of such childrens who have to face strictness?

Sadness, I will definitely feel it. They like to have to accept the mindset that is always right in the situation. They do not explain Well why they do it. It takes a clear and acceptable explanation so that what we convey becomes something firm without having to be hard.


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That way if I am in a place where children have to be dealt with firmly, then the best way is to give them gentle advice, on why something should not be done and why it should be done. Because an educational explanation is needed to instill the value of kindness in our children, a simple thing that parents sometimes forget.

As a child, what do you expect from your parents regarding their behavior?

All children expect their parents to be gentle with them, they hope to be well explained about what is considered wrong. Everything has a way and they want us to adjust and understand their feelings, so that later they can accept everything we want.

What are the negative effects of emotional blackmailing?

The damage to generations to come is the negative impact of emotional blackmail, threatening actions that will make them imitate it and do the same to others. No heart wants to be hurt, and then the act of emotional blackmail absolutely brings trouble in the future.

That's all my simple posts, hopefully, it will be an interesting read.



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 7 months ago 

Thank you.

 7 months ago 

Thank you.

Guiding your children in the best possible way is something that is difficult to determine as you do it, but it is probably what most people pursue and should pursue. I like the way your religion talks about these things, the way you put it it sounds pretty good, an upbringing that encourages success and the pursuit of happiness. Great post, greetings!

 7 months ago 

Thank you for your comment brother, I wish you success too.

Hello friend
You have shared a whole lot of things for us in this great entry. You have shared so much and indeed emotional blackmail causes lots of damage to generations as these kids tend to pass around these values thy learn from their parents. We should learn to also give advice to kids who have been subjected to strictness. I really enjoyed your entry and success in the challenge my dear friend.

 7 months ago 

Pleasant this comment, I learned from experience and Share on the basis of such experience. Glad you're here, thank you.

 7 months ago 

Ulasan yang mantap dari seorang pendidik dalam upaya mendidik anak agar berhasil... Sukses selalu pak

 7 months ago 

Tidak terlalu baik, terima kasih atas komentarnya Pak.

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 7 months ago 

Para tener una buena educación en nuestros hijos se requiere firmeza en hacer cumplir las normas y las leyes que se ponen en la casa sin embargo esta tienen que darse con amor y no ser tan severo al cumplimiento de ella ya que los padres estrictos tienden a alejar a sus hijos de ellos porque los niños desarrollan un temor y un miedo al ser castigado

 7 months ago 

Hola!
Con lo que me han contado mis padres puedo llegar a decir que la crianza de generaciones pasadas era mucho más estricta de lo que es ahora, sin embargo aún hay padres sumamente estrictos que piensan que les están haciendo algún bien a sus hijos, yo sinceramente pienso que hay que buscar un punto medio para la crianza. Éxitos en el concurso.

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