TRUE FORGIVENESS
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As we all know that it is written in the bible that we should forgive one another, that our sins may be forgiven too, true forgiveness carries no mental reservation. People do say that I can forgive but not forget, it is only a way of saying that you will not forgive indirectly, forgiveness which is partial, or half hearted works no better than a partially completed surgical operation on the face meaning a pretended forgiveness.
Partially forgiveness is no forgiveness, this is where God is different, what he does at this point of salvation or confession of sins is that he wipes up off all the traces of our past mistakes and at that new point, a new page is open for us[acts 3 :19]. Forgiveness is real, genuine complete and forgotten is the scalpels which can remove the pus of old emotional wounds, heals them and eliminate scar tissues.
There is this story I heard that illustrate the story of forgiveness, it goes this way; a woman found out that her husband has been cheating on her in which the case was reported to her pastor and her pastor treated the case very great but advices her to forgive her husband, she agrees to forgive her husband with her mouth but not in her heart and mind, she never left the house for him but her behavior and character changed and she became a dutiful wife, she kept the house clean and neat, washed all the clothes and even prepared food at it due time but She made the house a living hail on earth for him and to make it all worst when her husband complains she reply by saying that she only forgive him but cannot forget it. And as a matter of fact anytime her husband complain she will reply that she did forgive him but she cant forget it, now can you imagine that her very own forgiveness became a thorn in his side, she became so rude and more suspicious instead of being so kind to him and also live and feel happy with him and herself, instead of this she left the house for him and to me I will say that she did not love him with all her heart and did not for give him completely.
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What it really means is that forgiveness should be forgotten as well as the wrong which was forgiven. Don’t forget that forgiveness which is remembered and dwelt upon re-infects the wound you are attempting to heal.
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Finally if you are too proud of your forgiveness, or remember it too much, you are very apt to feel the other person owe you something to forgive him or her I will advice you to pray and ask God to remove the spirit of proudness from you and put a spirit to forgive and forget thanks for your time have a blissful day.