To my mother-in-law with love
Every women has a desire for her son and daughter to get married one day so that she become a mother-inlaw.
How is your relationship with your mother-in-law?
I see my mother-in-law as my own mother and for me to see her as my mother, you know what that means, good and awesome bonding relationship. This is all what I prayed for when I was single, to have a good mother in-law which I can love and respect very much and luckily to me, when I finally got married, my prayers comes true.
My mother in-law is a very disciplinary person who want things to be done rightly, since I knew and understands her from the very first day I was introduced to her and visiting her often opens my eye to really know the kind of woman she is. Her character, dealing is what I admire the most.
And I give her so much respect that she cannot stay a month without reaching out to check on me, her son and her grandson. I love her and I will always do.
Did you live or would you live with your mother-in-law? How was the experience?
Yes, I live with my mother in-law before, according to our tradition, when your daughter in-law put to birth newly, it either she follow her own mother or her mother in-law. During the day I delivered, my mother was not around, it was my mother in-law who first came to the hospital to visit me. She cook food, buy things and bring which shows a great happiness of welcoming her daughter in-law and her grandson.
If we were not in a good relationship, do you think she should have done that? She came visited untill I was discharged and when we left the hospital, guess where I was taken to, my mother in-law took me home to care for me and my baby. For the period of 3month, I enjoy staying close to her. I must say she is an amazing woman to live with.
Before am awake in the morning, she has already finished preparing breakfast for me to take. She did everything that can make a daughter to be so endeared to a mother, that is exactly what she did including my son, she bath him, carry him and make sure I have a enough time to rest. She has been a great support to me up till now and I wish to live more with her.
How did you make a good impression in front of your mother-in-law?
Personally i see her as my own mother, given her the respect she deserves, loving her, showing kindness, gratitude gives me a good impression in front of my mother-in-law. When I was with her, I do things they were she wishes which I believe she feels happy.
Before leaving her place she sat me down and gave me advice which keeps me going in my marriage now. Am a kind of daughter in-law who love to do things differently and I feel is the best for me to do that. I never hesitate buying a eye catching gift to surprise my mother in-law, she loves it that way, I like puting smile on her face anytime am round her and I love her kind prayers of God's blessing.
There's nothing good as daughter in-law receiving her mother in-law blessing, the blessings alone goes a long way in your life to make you enjoy the marriag. I got all the blessings to move on as a result of the things I do to impress my mother in-law.
Why is it so difficult for some people to get along with their mother-in-law?
Before I got married, some of my friends used to say they don't want to get married to a guy that his mother is still alive. When I asked why? Some of them will say they want to have peace of mind in their home that mother in-law do have bad behavior.
Really girl friend, that means you own character is bad that is why you thinks that another person mother character is bad wishing her death. I guess you too will not want to see your daughter in-law if not such though wouldn't have been in your mind.
Some mother in-law seem to be very attached to their son which makes some of the daughter in-law to be jealous. Some can be rude to the extent that no matter how good the daughter in-law is, they refuse to change. When some of the people have this kind of mother in-law, they will find it to difficult to be compatible and since two of them are not in good relationship, they will not think of seeing each other.
In essence, I think the main cause of this is a character problem. Daughters in-laws should gives the mother in-law the respect she deserves, love and care just as her own mother, I believe they will not find any difficulty been together.
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