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RE: NON VIOLENT COMMUNICATION WORKSHOP #1 INTRODUCTION: Observation, How to listen!
well, maybe if you practice with her she will discover it by accident.. SHE doesn't need to do anything differently, but she will maybe witness how nice and easy it can be to find the need behind the conflict with anyone.. and then figure a way to meet it.. Its surprisingly powerful to see how listening to someone really for them and not for you changes the WHOLE story and feeling.. it is quite healing just to feel heard !
yes not all needs can be fulfilled,, BUT even just being open to hearing them, and not judging them when they do it.. but instead to say.. oh YES, i can understand that is a need of yours and can see how not meeting it must make you feel very upset or frustrated etc..
Amen to that. In the movie, Phenomenon, Travolta asked an acquaintance who was in the doghouse if he ever bought her "chairs". Chairs being an analogy to what his wife's passion in life is.
oh yeah, i saw that aeons ago! might have to rewatch it.. it sounds to me like you are really ripe for this, and very happy you are giving it a shot..
it takes 2 to tango, and when one person leads with a waltz, the waltz it is!
Well, it's not my first year in the temple but still can't quite leave.
What I have done to get along for over 20 years is take all my baggage, pack it up, and send it over the cliff. Screw my baggage, happy wife, happy life.
I'd love for both my wife and I to learn the technique but I'll have to make her think its her idea. It would do her so much good.
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