Wonderful that this post may have given you a direction to seek @themanwithnoname... and thank you kindly for your well wishes and empathy. It is greatly received. You describe well the feeling of defeat that overwhelms you when trying to navigate the system that isn't designed to actually help. The time, cost and drama dents one's ability to fight on. I hope you're able to find some solutions to your issues too. Best of luck to you!