doctors where saying it was social enxaety or something like that, you know what is interesting in this case, after i lived with him it started with me but in a small scale, i could controll it but still was a bit harder to make eye contact then i tied and practised practised and overcome this problem myself too. So what i could tell you from his and my own experience that everything is you, you are the one who creates that, realize it first that you have a problem and start fixing it with ur brain, thinking practising . go and start thinking what you realy want, if it something that scares you it means you realy dont want it and move on and it will be fixed itself you jjust have to believe that whatever you have is only in ur brain and its all about perception :) hope this will help, in fact only think what you want and where you want to go, dont waste time thinking if something went wrong, if you know what i mean :) take something you always liked and make it as ur defence system agins ur uncontrolled nerves, practice practice and you can do anything, you are also human also anything that you will realy want, dont have fears, think about it and you will understand, maybe not today but continue thinking and you will understand and help yourself in that case :)