I am sorry for your loss @zastels... Cool that you found this supportive, . The grieving process is different for each of us- it's personal, intimate and sometimes painful to face. So much in life continues to remind me of my partner as well, and it is in those moments that I've found gratefulness - gratitude - to be so helpful. It's not a bad thing for me to be reminded of the person she was - who she had become in the life we shared - her perspectives on things - how much she loved her children and grandchildren - anything... I now welcome those reminders instead of fearing that they might trigger sadness...
Time does help - a Lot... But, it's not something to feel like we have to Rush... We don't need to be hard on ourselves. There were times when I'd think that I should be doing better because X amount of time had elapsed... But, Best to take it a day at a time, moment by moment. You'll get through it - in your own time...