Most humans have little self-esteem and security. I am talking about real, genuine, self-esteem. Not the one which is ego-driven. And we spend most of our life to find that place inside of self-love and acceptance. It's a virus, if you will, that we are born with, part of the human DNA.

I also wonder, if we all have both male and female parts, then it's up to us where to tip the scales? that mostly go hand in hand with your body?

Mostly yes. But it does not matter really. When one is really connected to someone, then one is indifferent about their genitals or other physical parts. Having said that, a heterosexual does not need to change their sexual orientation just to merge their opposite sex's part 😊