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RE: Addicted to shopping...for my son
We don't celebrate the holidays per se. We have dinner with the family, but we don't exchange gifts in my household with a "merry" or "happy" anything attached, unless it's a random Tuesday in the middle of the month, you know? That said, my kids are getting cash and books. Cash to teach them how to function, and save, and budget; books because of the knowledge they represent and contain.
I can see myself doing something like that when Jax is older. I'm not entirely comfortable with spoiling him like this, but I think it's partly a solo mom pride thing--giving him more than what I had, showing (who?) that I can do this holiday thing without a man, and so on. It's problematic but makes me feel good? I don't know...
I understand. Just be careful, because kids notice things, and start behaving with a certain expectation; it can really backfire unless it's tempered.
Oh I hear that. I will say that all other times of the year, the focus is very much on "what did you do to earn a treat?" Jax gets an allowance for following the rules and cleaning up his own messes. Eventually, he'll have to do more to earn it as he learns that cleaning up after himself is just what you do (no reward for doing what you're supposed to do!). I'm conscientious of not raising another entitled male, belieeeeeeeve me. ;)