GETTING your heart broken isn't easy to deal with. When we say someone is brokenhearted, we'd normally think that he was hurt by his lover. It has always been associated with romantic relationships. But there's something that hurts the same or maybe hurts even more—that is a friendship break up. It's when you cut ties with a person you have valued so much and who's always been there eversince. Friends are supposed to be there when you need someone to lean on. But what if the shoulder than you can lean on is no longer there to comfort you and wipe your tears? What if the person who has been your protector is the same person who's inflicting pain in you? How can you handle that?

First of all, you don't just burn bridges without a huge reason. Well, personally, I don't believe there is an enough reason to do that because all issues aren't really hopeless if both parties are willing to compromise and talk in a civil way. But if the other person isn't willing or both of you are too hard-headed to resolve the issue in a proper way, nothing good will happen. If you think your friend has already been stained and is no longer healthy for you emotionally, then maybe it's time to loosen your grip and let go. Don't hold on to things and people that hurts you no matter how much you love them.

Now, the question is: how can you move on? Your friendship has had a good run and you were able to create beautiful memories that's hard to erase. The fact that she's no longer in your life can be pretty hard to accept. So, I suggest that you should allow yourself to feel the pain for as long as possible. Let everything sink in. Cry if you must. Talk to your other friends and share your burden with them because it can make you feel a little bit better. Slowly accept the fate of your friendship. Don't dwell on it for too long because you have to continue your journey without her. Distract yourself so you wouldn't have time to be emotional anymore. You don't necessarily have to avoid her at all cost because you'd eventually see each other especially if you're working in the same office or you're studying in the same school. The world can be too small for the both of you and you'd need to get used to each other's presence.

It's okay to feel upset or angry. But NEVER let it rule your heart. You cannot let negative vibes live inside your heart because it's simply not healthy. Stop hoping that she would approach you and apologize for her mistakes. Hoping can be good and bad at the same time because it would hinder you from moving on. Don't hope but don't close your doors for the possibility of a reconciliation. Life can be pretty surprising. You have no idea what can happen in the future. Your quarrel or "break up" might just be a huge challenge to strengthen your friendship. We can never tell.

To everyone who can relate to this topic and is currently suffering from a friendship break up, I hope this helped you in some ways.

Smile. Life is beautiful.

There is a reason for everything.

It will all make sense someday.

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