Freedom challenge: What does freedom mean to me

Freedom, how that word's meaning can change over time to an individual.
Now, let me say, I know that when I was younger living at my biological family’s place, freedom to me was so different to how I view it now.
Freedom was as simple as not having my brothers and parents telling me what to do for just a moment in time.
It was also as simple as reading my phantom comics or watching a movie and even than it was not a true freedom as I had to hide things that would have been too "worldly", with inappropriate pictures such as nudity or sex scenes etc (I think you get my drift).
Whereas now these things and much more, I just do as I wish, not even considering such things to be a freedom any more, but a norm.

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Taken from the dictionary (and this time I actually picked up the written word, yes a book - the dictionary... How old fashion of me😉) it simply defines freedom as -

  1. The power or right to act, speak, or think as one wants.
  2. The state of not being imprisoned or enslaved.
I thought of this and I must say, that is a part of what freedom means to me.

The power to say and do as I want, for example when I directly went against what I was brought up to act, see and believe in.
Firstly, I dated and then married a so called sinner and then hence by association I was a sinner.
Secondly, I had an elopement that had no religious connotation.
Thirdly, I never came back to the religion or family.
Tho this for me was defiantly a form of freedom, it came with great emotional pain and suffering.

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The freedom of not being enslaved or imprisoned, most would say they posses. However from my experience I have only in my last few years felt such freedom to some extent (as I believe no one has true freedom as we are told and controlled by higher forces, such as government).
I was brought up in a very strict religious family, who did imprison me.
Well, no I wasn't locked away to never be let out but my where abouts and who I interacted with was controlled (even in my early 20's), even what I could do as a job was controlled. So yes to me it was a prison.

So for me yes, the simple dictionary definition of freedom has some meaning but let me go deeper and express more on how I feel freedom is.

Freedom - Consequence and pain free? I say no:

I strongly believe that freedom does not come freely but with sometimes mild but most frequently with great consequences. Freedom is messy.

Freedom is not the end, but a consequence
Guiomar (2013).

For example, war to freedom. The German wished of freedom in World War 2, America's independence and the French revolution. They all came at the cost of life and suffering but spawned by the desire of free will. They do not just suffer immediately but can do generationally - to this day the word Nazi is still used to describe a disgraceful person, and how about the ongoing suffering of those who suffered personally from either their hands or descendants of so called Nazis.

Personally, my experience of freedom has come with great consequences. By leaving my family and their belief I became an outcast. Not to be invited to weddings, funerals or purposely not spoken to. I lost ALL relationships I had (seemingly) strong or otherwise. To this day I suffer from this; it is harder to gain friends later in life. I can count how many friends (apart from my hubby), I have on two fingers and one of those is a somewhat flaky friend.

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Freedom = Truth (finding one’s self and its’ consequences)

Many Philosophers see freedom as having “broad personal, social, moral and political implications” (Yalom, 1980, p 216). Some aspects of philosophic freedom could include being your own possibility and projecting your own true self (Guiomar, 2013). One does not reach freedom by chasing it, rather by searching for truth (Guiomar, 2013). In my journey of finding self and being able to use free will to have a sense of freedom, defiantly aligns with this.
I also stand by Yalom (1980) with his idea that, to be aware of creating one’s self and destiny along with their feelings and sufferings is to be aware of their responsibility.

I have been able to identify other moments of my life where I could correlate a sense of relief, happiness and control with the realisation of a truth, a fact, or some knowledge that makes sense to me. An example of this could be the relationship with my mother in law. Nearly four years ago I was able to identify my mother in law as having characteristics of a manipulative narcissist.

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This has been a journey of some years that I have travelled with my husband. For much of this time there was perhaps some denial about the negative treatment that we would receive at her hand and a sense of obligation to follow the socially established premise of being kind to one’s mother regardless of the quality of the relationship.

This feeling is identified in literature and seems to be common to generations before us. For example, Yalom (1980) states that “throughout the centuries the concept of absolute freedom has always engendered bitter opposition because it has clashed with prevailing world views” (p 217).

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This period of time was filled with anxiety, a low sense of self esteem and conflict. When my husband and I reached the conclusion that his mother was indeed someone who was to be avoided, our perceived quality of life increased indescribably and an intangible sense of freedom (freedom of opinion, freedom of movement, freedom to decide how we are treated) lives with us today. Whether or not this revelation is valid in anyone else’s opinion is inconsequential; it is our truth and it has without doubt brought us freedom.

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I could go on and on with this bringing up many more examples of how I feel freedom is. However my strongest feeling of freedom is that it comes with the search of your existential truth and never without consequences.

Hope you enjoyed, thank you for reading.

Thanks for the challenge @sagescrub.
https://steemit.com/freedomchallenge/@sagescrub/freedom-challenge-1-what-does-freedom-mean-to-you-sbd-payout-to-winner

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So true @buggedout

Hey @beulinator, thank you for participating in #freedomchallenge!

Wow! How generous you are to share some most personal details and challenges with us. It is apparent to me how much strength you and your husband had to gather to be able to step out of the lives that you were told you must live and into your own choice and your very own lives despite all of the voices that said you should do otherwise. How very freeing it must be to choose for yourself how you will live your life despite the consequences, such as the emotional pain and suffering that did endure. And you have proven that it was worth the effort and finding the courage and strength to escape oppression!

@sagescrub, thank you. Yes we are defiantly stronger, happier and freer than we ever have been because of our choice to choose our own way. All the consequences and pain has been worth it.
Again thank you, for your support.

Sometimes we need to feel the pain of distancing ourselves from toxic family, but the freedom and peace of mind that we gain is so worth it!

Couldn't have said it better @cecicastor. It has all been worth it. Thank you.

Freedom will be achieved when i shed this muscular toned awesome body and become pure energy - to roam the galaxy and witness it's wonders for all eternity. rofl :)

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Thanks for sharing such a deeply personal definition of freedom. I really like your last statement, "freedom comes with the search of your existential truth and never without consequences."

It's very sad to me that your family would rather make you an outcast than open their minds to the love you share with your partner. It always makes me cringe when I hear of people calling others sinners. We are all sinners, so what makes one sinner more righteous than another? "He that is without sin among you, let him first cast the stone." I'm not religious but I am open to learn from the wisdom found within spiritual texts and I don't think those texts tell us to judge and oppress one another. You've probably already thought about all this so I won't belabor the point :). I was just trying to say that the search for freedom does not necessarily need to have consequences. Our struggle for freedom has consequences because we live in a world that needs to oppress, control, and manipulate others in order to validate one's own value system and beliefs. Until we are all free of such thinking, none of us are truly free. But we can still find joy in our personal experiences of freedom in our lives, as you did, and that is a wonderful thing.

Thank you @indyllwild, yes I ama strong believer in my last statement.
Family can be difficult, then through into the mix a strong religious belief.. Well that's how you get my story. I am stronger for it tho😊
Oh yes it is interesting having different religious knowledge. However every body interprets things differently... And (here's a through back to my up bringing) I could argue the Bible quote you just quoted with other verses such as (I am not quoting but summarising) the lord your god comes first before your brother, sister and children. So for me, I have no interest in having any religious influence. Tho yes, it can be interesting to discuss.
For sure that is true about the world being oppressive, controling, and maniputive.
Thank you for your thoughts😊

Oh Wowee, thank you heaps @sagescrub

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