I have learned and try to teach my kids that Freedom is the power to act and not be acted upon. This one of may definitions has helped me avoind situations where i could have been miserable. When i have not lived this way, i always come back and see that it has negatively affected me and then i have to decide to act again. Thanks @surfermarly for this post these are good reminders for me on how to be grateful how I should be moving forward.