For me, I had to attack stinkin' thinkin'. I noticed when the temptation to give them a good old fashion toung lashing came, I literally have to take control of my mind & point it in positive direction. No joke, I didn't even reslize I was doing that untill I saw how gentle & loving Adam's approach is. In a good way, I felt ashamed of they way I had been talking to my brothers & sisters.