Forgiving Others

 Some people seem to have forgiveness figured out backwards. They think that if they won’t forgive their mother for nasty, it is their mother’s problem. It is theirs! When we withhold forgiveness,  WE sufferer. Half of the time, the “guilty” person doesn’t even know what is going on in our head! The “guilty” person continues to happily breeze through life while we put ourselves through so much mental anguish. 

If I refuse to forgive my brother-in-law for not inviting me to his Christmas party, I suffer. He doesn’t get the nasty taste in his mouth. I do.  We are often advised to “forgive those who trespass against us!” It is the only way we can remain happy and healthy. Un-forgiveness is one of the greatest causes of sickness because a sour mind creates a sour body.

One can say “I’ll forgive you, but I can’t forget”. “I’ll forgive you a little bit, but I want to hang on to some of this stuff just in case it is convenient to remind you about it later on.” Real forgiveness is letting go. 

Some people never forgive their parents and screw up their lives just to demonstrate to their parents what a lousy joy they did!” Their message is, “It is your fault that I am broke and lonely and unhappy so now you can watch me suffer!” 

Blaming others gets us nowhere. If something is done, it is done. Griping about it changes nothing. Blaming the weather never helped anybody. The same goes for blaming other people. 

When we do choose to forgive, a marvelous principle comes into operation. As we change, others change. As we alter our attitude toward others, they begin to alter their behavior. Somehow, the moment we choose to change the way we see things, others respond to our changed expectations.  

Always,

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