You Love Those To Whom You Give And The More You Give, The More You Love?

So much of what is love, is fish love." - Rabbi Dr. Abraham Twerski

The Rabbi came across a young man who was clearly enjoying the dish of fish that he was eating, he said to the young  man, ''Why are you eating the fish? - "Because I love fish.'' - ''Oh you love fish, that's why you took it out of the water and killed it.'' - ''Don't tell me you love the fish, you do love yourself because the fish tastes good to you, therefore you took it out of the water, and killed it and boiled it."

"SELFLOVE .....Not Fish Love" was my first thought. I have to learn to love myself before I can truly love "Another"!?

In every culture and religion we can find words of wisdom that unify humanity, in Islam "tahduu tahabu"( exchange gifts, as that will lead to increasing your love)

First Epistle to Corinthians 13:4-8, 13 - Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

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I came across a video clip, one of my many single friends posted the other day and love was back in my mind, once again. It might be boring for some of you but for me it still is an interesting topic. I have so many girlfriends who never found the right partner and at some point our conversations end up with the big question: "Whats wrong ? Why not?" 

Some of us might have been very lucky to share passionate and true love with the so called perfect spouse they chose for life, some know pure love for their children or even their pets, some are still searching for the magic to happen but it does not. 

Love is a word, a feeling that in our culture has almost lost its real meaning. 

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A young man and woman fall in love, what does that mean? 

It means that he saw in this woman someone he felt could provide with all the physical as well as emotional needs. She saw in this man somebody, she can say "yes, that is love''but each one is actually looking out for their own needs....

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Listen to the entire speech carefully and let it sink in for a minute and then please, tell me your thoughts. 

It's not love really for the other, the other person only becomes a vehicle for your gratification. 

Too much of what is called love is fish love. Love is not what I gonna get but what I gonna give. 

People make serious mistakes in thinking that you give to those whom you love. The real answer is you love those to whom you give. 

If I give something to you means that I've invested myself in you. Since selflove is given, everybody loves themselves, now that part of me has become a part of you, there's a part of me in you that I love. So, true love is a love of giving, not a love of receiving."

 

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Now its your turn : What is Love for you?

 

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