This had me thinking . My sons father was in Pakistan and just came back with me 2 weeks ago. My son is now 7 months , his father saw him when he was 6.5 months for the first time . Before that I used to do everything on my own , financially , mentally and physically and it was tough now he has joined us and it feels different. I mean I can say that I can extra help now , but I found some stuff out about him which totally destroyed our relationship now . I pray that all goes well for your wife