I am really sorry you had to pass through all that., yes love, respect, kindness and friendship are the virtues a Family needs to provide their children. I think you can make a change with your own kids, only you can make them believe that family is everything. Only you can Be that beautiful shine and light you never had yourself to your Kids, and they would always know that "Family is everything" because of the love and care you have shown them! They would see the world through your eyes and heart. Thanks @diggedag, Peace and love I wish you and your family.