RE: Abandoned ... did Child Welfare fail? My husband's story ...
The system seems to usually fail these children. You would think that when they take them away from parents that are neglectful or abusive, that they would be able to offer them something better.
But sadly it seems that most of the time these children are just as neglected or abused within the system.
And it is even more terrible when the parents are good parents who desperately want their children and love them, yet the system deems the parents not good enough so forcibly remove the children from the parents and place these children in awful circumstances where nobody loves them.
So yes, the system let your husband down.
It would appear that his mother and father let him down first, but the system didn't offer proper 'care' either.
Thank-you for sharing part of your husband's experiences in foster care.
Thanks for reading this @canadian-coconut. I always thought the system let them down by not making a firm decision in the beginning to find proper foster homes for them, alternatively helping the mother with state money to set up a home where they could be together. Instead it was back and forth, which is emotionally destructive. The foster parents Brian ended up spending his holidays with were his salvation in my opinion, as they showed love and wanted to adopt him. He remained in contact with them until their deaths, and is still in contact with his foster brother who lives in Georgia, USA. I didn't go into detail about the Boys' Home, where he suffered all kinds of abuse.
Being a preschool teacher, I am very careful of calling Child Protection Services unless I genuinely fear for the child. As you stated, sometimes good parents fall short in their eyes, and this needs to turn around so that the parents are empowered. Blessings.