Hello zizy darl...hope u good..uhm to anonymous 1:
A four year relationship and the guy not showing commitment?that's a big turn off when you encounter another special individual who wana spend the rest to your life with you
We humans want care,pine for love and desire attention..but be careful though
There can be two sides to this..
1-find out why the present man you with dont want commitment..the sooner you do that the better for your heart
2-the new man who is all over you,find out what he really wants because men are mysterious
3-then evaluate your findings..but the quicker all these the better for your happiness..you not getting any younger,that doesn't mean you should decide without adequate findings on both men
Goodluck.