My heart breaks for you as I know the struggles you face. I can't homeschool due to lack of patience and full time work. A big part of me believes kids should go to school to prepare them for society. But the lessons are harsh. None of my children are/were happy in school. My repost today also ties into this topic. What I do believe is, if you as a parent are thinking about these issues you are doing something right!

On a side note. Reducing possessions, and lettting go of society's expectations of what you should possess, is a real shortcut to contentment. Nothing is more important than your husband and children.